They are really driving me mad this morning

[Britmummybites]

My three have been at each other throats for over a hour this morning. My lovely 4 year old who is ?aspie, ?ODD and ?ADHD is been behaving like a tornado that when he's not climbing inside the tumble drier and climbing mount everast (bookcase) and doing a free fall of it.

The ADHD 8 year old is making noises in the 9 year old ASD back.

The 9 year old is being hyper sensative about school as she's not getting the same of "ticks" that the other children in the class are getting.

Got to try and do their HW with them later and the 9 year old has been given the same HW every week since going back to school in sept (answer set questions on her weekend). Have asked the teacher to give her something different and last friday she did come home with something different but it's now back to this again.

It's boring, it's counter productive, she not learning, it's giving HW just for the sake of it.

So glad she be out of that school for 2 weeks.

[ali-s]

Hope everything has calmed down now. Luckily it's rare I have those sort of days now, but I must admit my two have been trying my patience this weekend. We are having our kitchen done at the moment ( I have no kitchen at all where it should be - and the new kitchen is stacked up in the living room - a week after it was suposed to have been fitted) I think all the hassle has made me short tempered and the upheaval isn't helping DS11. I lost it with them yesterday - constant squabbling and whining, DS9 winding up his brother - who ALWAYS takes the bait ! then this morning DS11( who has aspergers) disagreed with an answer I'd given him to a question, and we had an hour of tears and whining and repetition until we were all climbing the walls - something he hasn't done for over a year. Thank God it's monday tomorrow and I have the house to myself ( well hopefully the kitchen fitter will be here ! )

[deedolls]

i have two,who are just at each other everyday! one daughter age8 and one son age 7.if i didnt come between them they would kill each other!!!
i think with christmas etc its a very trying couple of weeks.
your not alone!!!

[carys]

My 3 have driven me insane today and nearly taken 2 doors off with the slamming ! One is in his room and the other 2 are still yelling in that excited having a laugh way that you know is seconds away from ending in tears ! AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH pass the wine !

[tinacooper]

you should go back to your 9 year old's teacher, my eldest is 9 yrs old( in year 5 ?) and his homework is very interestng and different each week. he moans at how much there is and his teacher is very particular., ask the teahcer why she only sets this sort of homework and say it is not stimulating enough for your child.
when they go to high school the amount of homework will be a big shock for them.

[deedolls]

yes mine are still going!!
i can see it ending in tears soon.

[Britmummybites]

you should go back to your 9 year old's teacher, my eldest is 9 yrs old( in year 5 ?) and his homework is very interestng and different each week. he moans at how much there is and his teacher is very particular., ask the teahcer why she only sets this sort of homework and say it is not stimulating enough for your child.
when they go to high school the amount of homework will be a big shock for them.

I wrote a note in her homelink book, spoke to her when she rang and she was a bit on the defensive side. There was another issue going on with the school at the same time.

The teacher said maybe she could write about what she ate or what she watched on telly over the weekend. Still not the point it's still about the weekend, it still the same sheet that she has to fill in. She's not learning anything, it's not reinforcing anything that she has learnt during the week.

My 8 year detests her sister's school and one weekend without my knowledge when she realised that her sister had the same hw, scrumbled it up and chucked in the bin.

My husband just mentions that i should scan it when she completes it and if she gets the same next week, just send a copy in.

This is a new teacher to the school. A friend who was in that class last year said that she had the same thing for roughtly the whole year, ocassionally a week here or there it was different.
Apparently the teacher said that she didn't know that the children had HW and the LSA showed her what the children did last year and she has continued with it.

Oh the teacher said that in secondary she would get HW nearly every night, i know that and i want that for my daughter but what she's doing now is not going to help her when she does go to secondary as she won't be used to it.

Hopefully she might be in a different class after christmas (fingers crossed).

I know it's a special school but she still needs to be pushed otherwise she's never going to get anywhere and she does have potiential.

(She's able to hold her own in her karate lesson against the "norm" kids)

[mazz]

oh dear, you are having a rough time, hope you can beathe a bit better with them being back to school today :)

can i offer some advice re homework, if your daughter has a IEP, is the homework set to work on the targets on this, if not you could ask them why?

another thing worth knowing is that for some children with asd they find is very difficult for the school and home to mix, both my children cannot quite grasp why you would do school work at home, they also struggle when mum suddenly pops into school too as they don't associate me with school and it confuses them

homework for them is rare and tends to be very different from what you would normally expect, my son did a month long photographic weather report that tied in with what they happened to be doing in class, whenever homework is set it is always discussed first and then tailored to fit in with what holds their attention or they are obsesed with at the time and it's never compulsory

developing a good open relationship with your childs teacher is vital after all you both want what's best for your child

both my children are in special schools and are academically bright, with the youngest being a number whizz, however the main focus from the school is not just to get them through exams but to teach them life and problem solving skills, like how to catch a bus, what to do if it doesn't turn up, how to keep yourself safe and when to visit the doctor etc

[Britmummybites]

Will need to hunt out the IEP as honestly i don't know but it's a good point.

She's fine with doing homework, last year it was a different thing each week, interesting things like find 2 facts on egypt.


Unfortunately the good relationship has been "blown" to smitherings with her school.

For instance saying she's not autistic only has "flavours" and then at a review the debuty head is reading out what is listed under her name in the special needs register and he says ASD. And a few other little bits..

The next school i want her to go will give her the opportunity to develop life skills but also has a wide range of exams and courses.

[mainecoon lover]

Sending you a big {{{hug}}}

I understand about them keeping to the samething and not giving them the chance to move on. My DD has a switch and i said at her last IEP meeting that it was boring and counter productive, she not learning. They promised they would look into giving her a diffrent switch. That was back in September and we are still doing the same old boring stuff :mad2:
Her IEP is a waste of paper as far as i am concerned. They either make it to easy or way to hard. I think they just do it because they have to.
We have her annual review in January and boy heads are going to roll. I had a letter from school the other day asking for my comments on how much i think she has come on this year :erm: and would i like to send it in within the next two weeks. Well no i would not. I get her reports on the day so i do not have time to digest them. To top it of this year she will have a new teacher who starts after christmas, so she will not really know her to start.
I bet she will wish she stayed at the school she was at time i finish with the others.
Nothing they promised to do last January has been done :mad2:
Sorry to rant on your tread :blush:

[Tiggers M8]

:rolleyes: :rolleyes:kids! mine are like that too!twin tornados!but somtimes they make me chuckle!:d: :xmassign: from tiggers m8:thumbs-up

[Britmummybites]

Wellllllllllll the other day got a phonecall from the eldest school. L has been saying that she's going on holiday soon????
Yes we are, this weekend......... Oh didn't you know that you had to get permission from the school, you have to fill a request in.

HELLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOOO wrote and asked at least 6 months ago and got permission.

OH we need to check the file. (rolls eyes)

Middle daughter school is fine, nursery are fine.

When we get back will have lots of lovely reports waiting for me :erm:
eldest has got year 5 review in Jan.

Little one saw his paed last monday and had the conner questionnaire scored, on friday he was seen by the "inclusion officer" and this monday just gone saw a specialist speech therapist at a different hospital. Have know this therapist for about 5/6 years and i trust her, which says a lot as i don't trust medical professionals full stop and i give you a recent example in just a tick.

P the specialist was formally assessing his comprehension as he saw her (first time) back in October and she unformally assessed him then and she wasn't happy with his comprehension and wasn't happy with the speech report from his local salt who said it was only "mild".

I tend to keep P updated on him and his siblings from time to time as she has seen his older sisters and so knows the family extremely well.

So back in September he had his preschool CELF assessment with his local NHS speech therapist and i was not at all happy as she coached him through it by constantly going "are you sure?" "look again" "pay attention" i brought her up on it and she was going oh i didn't mark those and oh he did it by himself, he changed his mind. (YEAH right with the amount of promting you gave him).

E-mailed P today as i'm impatient but i knew that she already disagreed with the "mild" although she has been very careful what she says as she said that she has to work with the local salt in regards to my son. But she mentioned discrepence and in her e-mail Sorry C.....-need to do a bit more marking but will have report ready for your return. I think patchy performance is one of features!!



Still trying to decide wherever or not to hang the local salt out to dry.