Bullying

[pigginpink]

My Son attends a special needs school he is autistic, dyspraxic, dyslexic and has ADHD and he is being bullied, keep getting in touch with school and they are building up a case against the two boys involved, they are terrorising the whole student body. My Son said if things dont change today he is not going back to school on Monday. He has told school he hates it and doesnt want to go back and I told them I dont want him there if he cant be safe and they said I would be introuble. I would rather be in trouble than have my son bullied and unhappy, any help what would you do.

Thanks

Helen

[lausan]

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http://www.kidscape.org.uk/info/bullying.shtml

[surann]

I totally agree with you I would rather my son be safe, I know if it was me I would be keeping him home until the school could assure me the problem had been resolved hope everything works out ok :wave: :wave: :wave:

[Saratoska]

My Son attends a special needs school he is autistic, dyspraxic, dyslexic and has ADHD and he is being bullied, keep getting in touch with school and they are building up a case against the two boys involved, they are terrorising the whole student body. My Son said if things dont change today he is not going back to school on Monday. He has told school he hates it and doesnt want to go back and I told them I dont want him there if he cant be safe and they said I would be introuble. I would rather be in trouble than have my son bullied and unhappy, any help what would you do.

Thanks

Helen


I would go higher up, phone the Education Department

[loadsapixiedust]

All schools must have policies in place to deal with bullying. If you have not had support from the head then take it higher.

You are entitled to keep your child at home if you so wish. The legal duty of a parent is to ensure a child is educated but this is not necessarily done just by sending them to school so you will not be in trouble for keeping him at home. Contact your LEA and tell them your intentions.

Bullying in special schools is often not dealt with appropriately maybe because too many allowances are made for the bully having special needs.

[Happy Mickey]

hi my mum used to keep me off school when i was bullied til i was black n blue all over n i didnt want to tell her but obviously she know what was happening(i changed schools). i was bullied because i was different as i went 2 mainstream school and i have AS. I have now completed 4 yrs in college n now in 1st yr uni so i combated it but its been very hard to understand y i had 2 go through being bullied

[tinacooper]

i would go back and make an appointment to see the head, tell them you are considering keeping your child off school and contacting the l . e. d.
good luck

[carys]

I would contact the LEA if your child is not safe .

[mazz]

sending hugs for you Helen

firstly can i say that if you state clearly in a letter and outline why you are keeping your chid away from school you will not be in trouble

like lynn says you have a legal obligation to make sure your child is educated and that does not always mean at school, there are lots of options

you need to get the letter in monday morning and ask if they can arrange a crisis meeting with all parties (including the local authorities head of SEN) and take any support you have available along with you, do you have anyone who will support you? like, perhaps a social worker or parent partnership or even another mum whose child also attends the school

if you go to a meeting with a clear head and have an agenda worked out before hand it helps you focus

your main aim is to have your child happy and safe at school and that should be the schools and the local authorities priority too, it's under their "duty of care" and they are responsible to provide a safe learning enviroment for your son so don't acccept wishy washy excuses, if thay cannot remove the bullies then you need to be insisting on full supervised support around your son until you can be assured of his safety

still no go?, then you need to be discussing alternative education with the lea until the matter can be rectified, that's why you need the local authorities head of SEN there as he/she hold the purse strings

if there is anything at all i can help with please message me, i have been in a similar position before where i have removed my child from school as they failed in their duty of care by removing his support and where they let him participate in a activity with no risk assessment in place :angry:

he returned back to school 3 weeks later and was educated by a home tutor for those 3 weeks which the authority paid for

be strong honey and you will get through this and if there's anything at all i can do to help pls ask, even if it's just to chat and let it all out

marie :smile:

[mazz]

just realised Helen where you are from

you are just up the road from me and my children both go to different special schools in your area, i have emailled you

[pigginpink]

Thanks for your concern my son has had a good day today so will be returning on Monday but decided to document everything in a diary of events so i have my own proof of what is going on then will get back to them, there is no other school he can go to in the area, s

[rpbert1]

Policy in our school[not special need]is to contact the teacher , if no joy the next step is the teachers responsible for the pastoral care, next the head after that the Board of Governors, and then the school board.
Fortunatley our school is excellent with this sort of thing ,unlike a lot who have their head buried in the sand and saying it doent happen in their school, it happens in every school , its how they [the school]decide to deal with the problem.
Hope you get things sorted

[Sheeps68]

If this problem starts up again ask to speak with education welfare. They will really force the school to act if need be especially as risk your son may not atend if its not sorted.

[No1 tinkfan]

The school have a responsibility to ensure your child's safety and if they are not doing that then they need reporting to the LEA. The government policies state that each child has a right to be safe. I definately write to the school stating my intentions if it continues, but keeping a diary is a good idea to begin with. Hope it all works out.

[scottishwee35]

My Son attends a special needs school he is autistic, dyspraxic, dyslexic and has ADHD and he is being bullied, keep getting in touch with school and they are building up a case against the two boys involved, they are terrorising the whole student body. My Son said if things dont change today he is not going back to school on Monday. He has told school he hates it and doesnt want to go back and I told them I dont want him there if he cant be safe and they said I would be introuble. I would rather be in trouble than have my son bullied and unhappy, any help what would you do.

Thanks

Helen


Oh Helen, that is terrible :mad2: :mad2: I feel sorry for your son too.

Hope this problem have to be solved asap.

School should help out and sort out with two boys who have been bullying to your son.

I hope someone help you out.

Take Care

Scottishwee35

[pigginpink]

Thanks for all your support he had a good day yesterday, lets hope it continues.

[mobeckwith]

its just awfull when children are bullied,but worse when children have special needs,i feel sympathy for you and yours,my ds has had a poor start to high school and its agonising hearing the details of the day theyve had and it must be worse for you,especialy when the bullys are not dealt with.just sending lots of :pd :pd :pd :pd :pd :pd :pd :pd :pd i hpe things improve for you all,we are getting back on track now but its been hell.ll the best mo :wave: :wave: :wave:

[Katherine]

My son was being bullied. I went into school to complain and got a sort of "things happen" attitude. I decided to take action, I told school that unless they do something (and I gave them a whole day) I would sort out this problem directly with the childs parent in the playground or that I would take legal action and name and shame the school, parents and anybody else who wasn,t "doing their bit". Needless to say, the child in question was taken out of school as he,d also been bullying alot of other children and after I kicked up a HUGE FUSS they had to do something. The childs parent can,t seem to show her face around the school anymore, maybe she should of brought her child up better??

[ForPetesSake]

Hi
It sounds like the school are taking steps, however if the problem is immediate and continuing especially if it continues outside school then everyone has the right for action under the Protection from harrassment act 1997. Sect 1 states the following.

Sections 1 and 2 of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 make harassment an offence and specify the defences and penalties.
Section 1
1(1) A person must not pursue a course of conduct-

(a) which amounts to harassment of another, and
(b) which he knows or ought to know amounts to harassment of the other.

1(2) For the purposes of this section, the person whose course of conduct is in question ought to know that it amounts to or involves harassment of another if a reasonable person in possession of the same information would think the course of conduct amounted to or involved harassment of the other.

The Police are able to issue a warning letter to the offending parties. If they then continue with the harrassment they render them selves arrestable/prosecutable.

It will obviously be relevant if the other person(s) have any sort of learning difficulties themselves, because the law states that they must be aware that what they are doing amounted to harrassment.

Good luck

Pete

[duggs]

I know its NOT the right answer, BUT my son is also autistic and until recently was always in "special" schools.

Because the state no longer would/could finance his future education he was placed in a normal private school here in Suffolk.

He is a lovely sweet, caring lad but was bullied because he was different. On one occasion he was bullied to the point where he thumped a kid right off his feet....but then sobbed uncontrollably all day because he knew he shouldn't have lost his temper.

That said, the school then HAD to act against the bullying and strangely he hasn't been bullied since.....the fact that half the school saw him whack the bully on to his ass probably helped a bit...although James is still very angry with himself for doing it..

[duggs]

OOPs...double post..

[melspice]

Email your MP's office. It works.

xMel