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4 May 07, 11:18 PM |
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For parents of special needs kids
A friend sent me this, just thought I'd share it.
WELCOME TO HOLLAND By Emily Perl Kingsley I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this... When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting. After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.” “Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy.” But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay. The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place. So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met. It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills...and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts. But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, “Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned.” And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss. But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland. c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved |
4 May 07, 11:51 PM |
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that is so lovely - i cherish my son with his problems every day - he is my best friend
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5 May 07, 08:02 AM |
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I've read that before Lynn and it's very apt
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5 May 07, 10:30 AM |
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thanks Lynn that cheered me up
had a really down week thinking about what might have been and what we can't do now and having seen a couple of ex-friends who dissapeared skipping along the road with their daughter I got quite depressed |
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5 May 07, 02:40 PM |
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Sometimes seeing something like this makes you appreciate your child even more. Like everyone else I have a good week followed by a bad week with our son. I sometimes especially feel hard done by as we had to wait 8 years before having our first child going through years of fertility treatment and then we are still given the extra hard task of bringing up a special needs child.
I sometimes find it hard to count my blessings instead of wondering 'why us'! |
5 May 07, 02:40 PM |
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