[2littleboys]

Originally Posted by JessBlu

Just another perspective on daughters and in laws.

I think we assume that our husbands do the same for their mums as we do, little texts, morning calls, pics of the kids, calling in for coffee etc, well mine doesn’t and it took me a long time to realise that, it’s not from a lack of wanting to but they just don’t think the same.

So I think that explains why the gaps emerge, as the mother in law does not get the contact from the son that we give to our mums.

In the example above about parents evening, have you reached out to your mum in law and invited her ?

I would of course mention it to my mum, it’s parents evening next week, just in passing, then she will say oh can I come- of course , but that exchange just would not happen with the mum in law.

We love them equally, but it is a different relationship.

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I have to agree with this, I speak to or see my mum most days but my husband hardly sees his mum despite her living in the same street.

When we first got together I tried to encourage the relationship by inviting her for dinner etc but to be honest my husband just isn’t interested, I regularly invite my family for Sunday dinner but DH never asks his mum.

MIL idea of being a grandparent is waving to the kids when they pass her house on the way to school, I’ve told her we have an open door policy for visiting but she never comes near.