[hilz22]

I have 2 sons 16 and 12. One hfa the the other classed as moderate functioning with learning difficulties.
Ds 16 is not social, is a pacifist, does say it how it is. And needs to know if anything different to the usual routine is happening. This might be useful for you to know. Let her know in advance if you are decorating, having guests over extra.
Ds 12 struggles with the same things but will lash out violently.
He also cannot write but as the memory of an elephant. He will not even try in a room full of people and just ignore people who try and engage him. Rather than ds 16 who will try.