[cybermum]

Originally Posted by megaflyer

I agree but disagree

Patching things up is exactly what is needed - how would she feel if her mother died ? Sorry to be blunt but your “pussyfooted” comment however well intended really might not be the best advice !

I am now an orphan - fact

I had a great relationship with my (adopted) parents - fact

It wasn’t always rainbows and roses but bloody hard work at times - maybe cos I am gay - fact

My Parents died knowing I loved them and they love me - fact

You can’t replace the bond from prenatal love (even marriage and children aren’t the same )

Please don’t regret anything - please

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Sorry but this is easy to say without knowing the finer details.
My mother found out where I was and continued her onslaught, sending me funeral cards on my birthday, writing abusive letters to the neighbours etc
Writing me letters saying how she wishes she had got rid of me, didn't love me.
She didn't track me down out of love, but for her own ends of mental abuse.
Some of us never had it to start with. My Dad died and it broke my world. But he loved me and I him.
I tried so hard for 30 years to win her love but when she started affecting my childrens wellbeing it was the final straw.
So with the greatest respect I say its not always the blood that binds us, in cases it can destroy us.