[EssexSue]

I have no idea of the relationship so am making no comment (although perhaps my family are excessively materialistic as I have never known a child refuse a present). What I did want to say was some charities, I think it may be the Salvation Army do a collection for children in hostels where you wrap a present and put a note saying child's gender and age and they are donated appropriately. I'm sorry I don't know more details but our was organized by a local hairdresser so I just gave it in. I would donate to something like this then write and tell them that's what I'd done and suggest they cut out the middleman next time.