Prompting a “thank you”

[TGT]

Originally Posted by Claudette

I wouldn’t say anything to her, but I would stop the money in the card. Not because of this but she seems a bit old for money in a card.

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Just to say I'm 50 - STILL happy to receive money in a card (the gift voucher with a picture of the Queen on I can use in ANY shop ;-) )

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[snowbelle]

I would stop the money, she's old enough and as you say working full time

My sister , niece , nephew and sisters partner all have a problem saying thank you and it niggles me .
sister wasn't brought up like this and niece and nephew are late teens ..I have said things in the past about it and nothing changes .I find it so rude

[Rebelrebel]

Maybe it has just slipped her mind to contact you and say thank you. I told my daughters' God Mother to stop giving them presents for Birthday and Christmas once they reached 21 and I'm doing the same for my Godson next year when he is 21.

[Beth_Disney]

Originally Posted by snowbelle

I would stop the money, she's old enough and as you say working full time

My sister , niece , nephew and sisters partner all have a problem saying thank you and it niggles me .
sister wasn't brought up like this and niece and nephew are late teens ..I have said things in the past about it and nothing changes .I find it so rude

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My sister is exactly the same. I sent my niece and nephew a lovely little treat last week and I know it was received as my sister put a photo of it on Facebook. My niece and nephew text me about random stuff but not so much as a thank you for that. Ungrateful little monkey's!

[Pino_Spetzberg]

Originally Posted by TGT

(sorry, totally not relevant at all moving on... )

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On similar note.
I gave £20 to each of a close friend's three daughters since they were born, every birthday, every Christmas. That's £120 every year. Each received £50 when they reached 18th and 21st birthdays.
I stopped at their 21st, as the youngest reached 21 a couple of years back something strangely coincidental happened.

Every year the Mother of my friend, sent me a card for birthday and Christmas, with £5 inside - to buy a drink.

My first birthday after I stopped giving money I received a card from her with nothing inside, no fiver. Same again at Christmas. Same every time since - where's my five quid !

Ordinarily, one wouldn't be too bothered, but it left me feeling quite peeved.

The middle daughter married another close friend's son, I sent them £250 as a wedding present being as I knew both of them so well.
At the wedding reception we were asked to see the presents, everybody lined up, being thanked in turn as they passed by. Until it was us, we just had a nod with a smile.

Next couple of weeks went by without a thank you text or card.
Had us wondering if they received our cheque. We checked our bank statement which showed it was cashed.

Can totally see where OP is coming from. A little thank you goes a long way.

I would just stop giving now tbh.

[Taffy1959]

Originally Posted by Mr Tom Morrow

OP. We faced this issue a long while back as we were giving money or gift cards etc and then suddenly thought why?

The crunch was my Sister. She and I have little in common but get on ok (ish). Never see each other though. But at Xmas and Birthdays we would send a cheque and a card.

One year I took the bull by the horns and suggested we stop the money. She said thank God for that it's a pain in the neck writing a cheque and banking what you send me. Job done!

This year we have told the Children the new rules

£50 each for a Birthday 2 x Children, 2 x Partners, 2 x Grandchildren

Xmas is the same albeit £100 each

Nobody else gets anything. Mmm, we have nobody else.

In your situation I would let it go but stop going forward.

Best of luck.

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I’ve done this with our 4 adult children for a few years now they get £50 each as do their partners for Christmas and birthdays but we do buy presents for the grandchildren and step grandchildren
We also get our 4 and partners something small to unwrap on Christmas Day usually around £5/6 each.

[Disneyfreaks]

This bugs me too, I’ve been brought up to say/write thank you’s & have passed this rule onto our DS but we have friends who we’ve brought for (their 3 children) since the day they were born, have never had a thank you - ever, they’re all early 20’s now & working so I have stopped but, it still bugs me end I think about it, especially as they’ve always got thank you’s from my son !

[scottishmum]

Originally Posted by Pino_Spetzberg

On similar note.
I gave £20 to each of a close friend's three daughters since they were born, every birthday, every Christmas. That's £120 every year. Each received £50 when they reached 18th and 21st birthdays.
I stopped at their 21st, as the youngest reached 21 a couple of years back something strangely coincidental happened.

Every year the Mother of my friend, sent me a card for birthday and Christmas, with £5 inside - to buy a drink.

My first birthday after I stopped giving money I received a card from her with nothing inside, no fiver. Same again at Christmas. Same every time since - where's my five quid !

Ordinarily, one wouldn't be too bothered, but it left me feeling quite peeved.

The middle daughter married another close friend's son, I sent them £250 as a wedding present being as I knew both of them so well.
At the wedding reception we were asked to see the presents, everybody lined up, being thanked in turn as they passed by. Until it was us, we just had a nod with a smile.

Next couple of weeks went by without a thank you text or card.
Had us wondering if they received our cheque. We checked our bank statement which showed it was cashed.

Can totally see where OP is coming from. A little thank you goes a long way.

I would just stop giving now tbh.

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Wow I’m astounded at this

[bonnies mum]

We were supposed to be at a wedding in April which was postponed due to Covid until Aug.
DH & me talking today & he asked if we had already given the present (money as requested by bride). I said yes & we had received a lovely thank you. We then went on to say how rare it was nowadays to be thanked.
1 wedding DH was just out of hospital & we messaged to say that we would not be able to attend. Didnt even get a message back or a word if thanks. Grooms mother (DH cousin) never even asked for DH when we asked her how the wedding had gone.