I hate homework!

[DisneyHoneymoon]

DD is in year 2 and brings homework home every Friday. I feel like I am very patient with her when it comes to anything other than homework. I always end up frustrated, because DD acts like she has never heard of what is being asked of her in the homework. I have brought this up with her teacher and she showed me the work she did in class, that was practically identical...
It's come to the point where she does her homework with her Dad instead, because I dread it so much and he just tells her how to do it and that's that.
I want to help her, but I am worried the way I explain it is different to how she learnt it in school and I end up confusing her, but she can't tell me how she learnt it in school, which frustrates me.
Just needed to vent

[Bellasmummy]

I could have written that! Except dd is yr3.

I’m a very patient person but something seems to happen to me with homework.

[BucksBugsy]

You wait until the words "shared homework" get mentioned

[Flojo224]

My DS is now in year 5 and we’ve had this since he started school!

Normally he is the most laid back easy going happy child - mention the word homework and he suddenly becomes awkward, argumentative, sullen, frustrating and much more! We end up in an argument almost every time

[skb 123]

I'm assuming it's maths and they are being taught different methods to those we would have learned at school?
Ask the teacher for a parent guide to "how we teach maths" or see if there is any chance of them doing a presentation or short course for parents. All of these options were available when my kids went through primary school.

[parkgirl]

I get so frustrated with homework. My dd is in yr 3. She is in a Welsh medium school (Niether DH nor I speak Welsh either) so it’s hard. I ask her what it means in English and she says she doesn’t know. I have spoken to the teachers and they say she excels in school with her language skills. I end up doing the same as the OP and leave her dad to the homework.

[chrisxal]

Oh it doesn't get any easier my GD (we pick them up from school everyday, do homework, feed them and take them home when mum and dad get home from work) is now in year 9 and I don't have a hope in hell of understanding how to do her maths homework, I can work out the answer in my own way but she tells me I am doing it all wrong.

[feelingnuts]

Another frustrated yr2 parent here and we now have SATs workbooks to get through each week about 4 pages in each it’s painful. I’m using all my self control not to strangle him he can’t be bothered and also acts like he has no idea.

I also think the level expected is shocking for a 7 year old. Last week was to read a paragraph and answer questions on it I had to read the paragraph twice to understand it and I’m the adult how’s a child supposed to decipher it. The teacher said to me unfortunately that is the expected level!

[littlelish0544]

It amazes me, how without any homework being set at all, or at least not being set until secondary school years ago, how we ever managed to produce adults with any capability to become doctors, dentists, engineers, business owners, police... oh, and teachers (etc-insert any profession-including running a house managing a household budget, bringing up children instead of leaving them to be raised by wolves!) As for the older generation, like my parents, who left school at 14, its a wonder they were anything over the level of cavemen... its so silly. Let them be children for goodness sake, or if the powers that be insist the amount of homework is really required now to turn out well rounded adults to go into the world, then maybe the school day/ terms need a massive overhaul? But this would undoubtedly cost money and involve extra staff to support/ teach so that's unlikely... im not saying that parental involvement and support for school work isnt a good idea, but it does seem to be too much too young these days

[happytraveller]

I too could have written this! It winds me up no-end! Ds who's in year 5 gets upset and frustrated as I badger him, add into the mix, me who has physically and emotionally crawled to Friday exhausted, then presented with work I've never seen before, it's a nightmare.