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11 Oct 17, 07:30 AM |
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World mental health day. Always quite apt for me with the timing. I've posted on here a few times about losing my dad to suicide - 7 years ago tomorrow. The fall out completely blew apart my family and destroyed my mum (who was a late diagnosis, but very obviously bi polar all her life now we look back on it. She didn't get a formal diagnosis until her early 60s) who then succumbed to poor health four years later.
I've dealt with loss (including a very close friend aged 31 to cancer) but nothing prepared me for a loss through suicide. All I can say is please, please talk to someone if you are feeling low. I know it's easy to say but there are plenty of people around my dad who feel that they could've helped if he'd opened up and spoken to someone about how he was feeling. (We had massive issues with his useless GP as well, but that is another story)
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11 Oct 17, 07:42 AM |
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Moley, don't give up. If who you are seeing to help isn't working for you, ask to be seen by someone else who can help you more. And regret nothing
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11 Oct 17, 09:04 AM |
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It doesn't help if your GP says if you need sleeping tablets you need to see a psychiatrist and that won't look good on your nursing records. I was too tired to say those records are sealed and have to have a special request to obtain them.
I was just burnt out after 12 years on ITU. I saw a woman GP in the group who gave me 3 weeks of Lorazepam and Nitrazepam (Yes it was that long ago!) I slept like a top! and moved to an Acute Medical ward with Bank work on ITU and CCU and was fine after but it was a nasty threat when I was at a low ebb. |
11 Oct 17, 09:04 AM |
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It really hurts doesnt it, those jokes when its your child
Glad you made at least one person think about what he had said.
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11 Oct 17, 09:30 AM |
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Ive had the same on here a few years ago when someone told me I had too much time on my hands when I said I found a mental patient Halloween costume offensive. I asked for the thread to be locked but I really wish Id defended myself now!
At the time my mum was an inpatient under section 3 after an actute bipolar episode brought on by dads suicide. Change the word mental to any sort of other illness and then suddenly its okay that its offensive?!
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11 Oct 17, 09:33 AM |
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Very Serious Dibber
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11 Oct 17, 09:52 AM |
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Very Serious Dibber
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I feel the same as Moleymole to be honest. I have a degree but I work for minimum wage as a library assistant (the same thing I was doing at 16, I'm now 28) because it's (relatively) low stress. A 23 year old woman just joined my team and she's just started her PhD. That was always my plan: get a degree, get a masters, get a PhD. The anxiety I'd had since I was a pre-teen came to a head in my first and then my final year of uni and I became suicidal both times. It's been 7 years since I graduated and I still can't imagine going back into academia, even though I desperately want to become a qualified librarian. People at work, family, friends, all look at me and see wasted potential (I'm not imagining this, that phrase has been used more than once by tactless people!) and I can't do anything except tell them that I feel exactly the same. My partner is lovely but he's a very high achiever (has both a full time and a part time job, captains a sports team and organises the league, writes prize winning plays!) and I know he gets frustrated when I can't even wash up or iron my clothes or clean up after the cats. I know I'm just as intelligent as he is, but I'm nowhere near as capable. I'm in no way religious but I wish someone would grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change! Coming to terms with my limitations is a daily battle and honestly the hardest part of my illness.
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11 Oct 17, 10:17 AM |
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11 Oct 17, 11:37 AM |
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Well, if I could point you to exhibit A (me). You sound exactly like me in my 20's. Substitute the library for a succession of low pay call centres and our stories are nearly identical.
Throughout my mid 20's I came to realise that I just couldn't cope. I would crumble the minute anything got tough. I was persuaded to get some help which I did in the form of cognitive therapy and medication and things gradually improved. But then something suddenly changed, I seemed to reach a tipping point when I hit 30 (they don't call it the terrible 20's for nothing). The illness practically disappeared (I think due to the therapy, reflection and meds), my resilience improved massively, I started to feel confidence that I had never felt before. I felt able to change my job and take on some more education. My new job went well and they offered me a better one and a better one and a better one until I am where I am today, at the top of my profession with a good career and a good wage. If someone met the 25 year old me and then met me now they wouldn't believe it was the same person and I would say my personality has utterly transformed. Fast forward 20 years to now and I'm having a very tough time due to a divorce. But where that sort of thing would have destroyed me back then, I have sought help and can already feel myself coping and bouncing back after only a couple of months of horrible anxiety and depression. I know that things aren't great for me now but they improve each week and I also know that ultimately I will thrive. Knowing that is the biggest weapon you can have in your "coping with anxiety and depression" arsenal. You will not be the same person you are now forever, at least not if you don't want to be .
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11 Oct 17, 12:21 PM |
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I can't see one in my inbox. I've just messaged you and I think it's sent ?
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