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10 Aug 19, 05:21 PM |
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Leaving older children overnight.
Husband and I want to go away in the caravan for a few days over the bank holiday. We are thinking of going on the Saturday and coming back Wednesday so 4 nights. Our twin girls don’t want to come. They are 16, 17 in September. I’m a bit hesitant at leaving them for the whole time for the first time so have suggested they stay at home for 1 or 2 nights and then my mil comes and gets them. (They wanted to spend a couple of nights there anyway)
That’s alright at this age isn’t it? Just second guessing myself really.
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10 Aug 19, 05:29 PM |
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Depends , at sixteen I was at work, by seventeen I worked away abroad occasionally and was capable of cooking a meal, turning off appliances and locking the house up.
Yet today's teenagers ,we see posts from parents concerned about leaving teenagers who are legal adults or them catching a train so for some families maybe the kids are more dependant for longer ? At seventeen my son was fine if we went away for a weekend, got himself to college by train etc . I think it very much depends what independence they already have , how responsible they are as individuals , there is no wrong or right answer, just what is right for your family and personalities. I would say though, if not at seventeen, then when ? If they aren't ready , maybe it's time to start leading them to "adult ready" ? Edited at 05:31 PM. |
10 Aug 19, 05:31 PM |
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Join Date: Aug 14
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Nearly 17 left overnight on their own, why ever not?
years time they could be off to uni, married , in the army |
10 Aug 19, 05:46 PM |
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It depends on the children. If they were wild, unruly or you had behaviour/attitude problens then I'd be concerned about what they might get up to! If they're good, sensible children then definitely. We've just had a long weekend in Oxford and left our 16 year old son at home on his own, and our 17 year old (nearly 18) daughter moved out last month in to her own house with her boyfriend. Both of ours are very level headed and trustworthy, so if yours are the same, then I don't see why you wouldn't. It's that time of transition, but I do understand how hard it is.
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10 Aug 19, 07:29 PM |
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L2P isn’t ur eldest sensible! When you read everyone’s posts on here you feel you know each other . Aren’t u doing a surprise 18th Florida trip have you know had to take the BF
Don’t think mines ever moving and she’s 22
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10 Aug 19, 08:51 PM |
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Yes, she's definitely got her head screwed on, but did get home sick her first night away and turned up the next day asking if she could take her duvet as she didn't like her boyfriends, bless her. We do get some funny calls from her though checking things like if it's okay to cook carrots and broccoli in the same panb She's settling in to independent life though
We've got the secret birthday trip coming up soon. Only 8 more weeks until the reveal, then her boyfriend is coming out to join us the second week as a surprise. Can't wait to see her face when he walks in to the hotel!
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10 Aug 19, 05:55 PM |
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As everyone has said previously, as long as they can be trusted, I see no reason why they can’t be left. Especially if it’s just a couple of nights this first time and then they go to their grandmothers. It’s a good way to give them some independence and teach them to look after themselves a little. Plus, as you are going with your caravan I’m guessing it’s a UK break so you can keep in touch easily and go back if you needed to.
We left our older boys when they were that age and they were fine. They had ground rules and I expected to come home to a tidy home, and they were always respectful of our wishes. Their aunt lived around a mile or so away and could get to them if needed, but they never needed her for anything. |
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10 Aug 19, 05:56 PM |
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Yes, no concern over wild parties, very independent, can sort out most things, would know what to do in an emergency etc, used to being left all day, evening. I suppose part of it is that we wouldn’t be able to get back to them quickly but My Mil is only half an hour away.
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10 Aug 19, 06:24 PM |
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Depends on the children, but yours sound sensible enough so I wouldn't have any hesitation about leaving them.
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11 Aug 19, 10:27 AM |
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[QUOTE=Twin mummy;14007450 I suppose part of it is that we wouldn’t be able to get back to them quickly but My Mil is only half an hour away.[/QUOTE]
Hate to break it to you but my understanding as a parent of teens is that this particular worry is here to stay for pretty much ever 😂 |
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