Family advice

[di5ney]

Hi, my inlaws who we have nothing to do with keep sending gifts to our kids but we have told them to stop but they won’t. Things are bwyond repair and my dh doesnt want any contact with them. Our dds are 7 & 2. My youngest doesnt know who they are and my oldest says she doesnt want gifts from them as they never see her. Anyway, the last present that was delivered my dh left it on their door step and yesterday another parcel was delivered. Again dh is going to leave it on their door step. Is there anything we can do? His mum Is a total control freak and extremely manipulative and wants the final say in everything.

Thanks

[megaflyer]

Just pop them into your bin if useless or donate to charity shop if can be used by someone else - no point returning them if all it does is score points

[caj]

Charity shop or Christmas toy collection?

[Princess Ariel]

I would go with Christmas toy collection. B&M and Tesco do them

[JessBlu]

Tell the kids they are from you or Santa, stick them in the charity box at the supermarket or sell them on Facebook and stick the money in the kids accounts for the future.

[Welsh_Dragon]

Unless your in laws are a risk to the children it sounds as though you are being the manipulative one, not the in laws. Subject to the at risk comment, it is very nasty to use your children to hurt others and not allow them to have contact with their grandparents.

[Button17]

Donate to a local children's ward at Christmas. Save them up through the year and get the kids involved so They are aware of children less fortunate.

Take care of yourselves. This obviously want an easy decision so be kind to yourselves xx

[evergreen]

B&M or Salvation Army

[Rebelrebel]

Originally Posted by Welsh_Dragon

Unless your in laws are a risk to the children it sounds as though you are being the manipulative one, not the in laws. Subject to the at risk comment, it is very nasty to use your children to hurt others and not allow them to have contact with their grandparents.

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Guess you need to know the whole story before saying this really.

[di5ney]

Originally Posted by Rebelrebel

Guess you need to know the whole story before saying this really.

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Yes, we could not have tried any harder over the past 7.5 years to get them to have a relationship with my kids. They want the title of grand parents but they have never wanted TO BE grandparents. They think sending gifts is being grandparents. My husband is completely gutted at the situation but when they tell u to your face how much time they spend with his nieces and what they do with them etc it is nothing but a kick in the teeth for dh especially. I can guarantee we have exhausted all avenues. I wont say any more on the situation but i can guarantee i am not the manipulative one in this situation. Dh will be taking the gifts back again, he doesnt want them thinking we will accept things off them. Any other circumstances and we would normally donate unwanted gifts to charity.