What’s everyone doing for Father’s Day?

[Guest]

Hard day for those who have lost fathers( both myself and DH have). But we are going out for tea on Saturday to a local Italian with DS, DDIL and DG.

DS is at work on Sunday bless him. They have bought DH a tool belt as he is always doing odd jobs for them and keeps saying he could do with one! ( and he constantly watches Friends!)

[Tinks2014]

We are off to Kefalonia tomorrow and it’s hubby’s birthday the day after. Have had a steady stream of visitors and I have gifts and cards packed . He is going out when we come back but only I know where he is as it’s a surprise .

[Gryff]

I’m away and the boys said they would take DH out his reply nope I’ve my day planned the gym a game of golf and a take out Lamb Madras the perfect Father’s Day he says
Although he will no doubt eat the Thornton chocolates and have a half from the malt they have bough hi.

[marypoppins38]

DD can't come home as she is on call but I have booked a table to go out for dinner with DH and DS. The kids have bought him new bbq tools and a huge bucket of pick 'n' mix.

[Fluffypenguin]

I haven’t lost my father, but I still find Father’s Day tough and the weeks leading up to it.

My dad never wanted me, no idea why he didn’t walk away at birth seeing as him and my mum had split (although he lived one street away so kind of hard). He never paid a penny towards me.

I spent a fair bit of time with him growing up as my mum worked and he didn’t, but they weren’t all nice memories. He was a miserable bad tempered man and I found him quite frightening at times, he was very cold towards me and I never felt like he loved me.

When he got a girlfriend when I was 11, he just wanted me out the picture. He’d take her and her kids out, buy them things (stuff he’d never done for me). He even bought her daughter a laptop for Christmas and I got a £1 stationary set (not that he had ever spent a lot on me anyway, but that was a new low). He played some cruel tricks with me whilst he was with her.

When they split he kind of came back into my life (I was 14), but he never made the effort, it was always me and my half sister encouraging it. Anyway fast forward to when I was 18 and he cuts me out his life entirely and I didn’t even try to stop him.

It’s still very painful, I think of him most days and I’m bitter about what I never had. There’s no point me trying with him because he isn’t the man I want to call dad anyway… his choice to walk away after all🤷.

So I’ll be doing nothing whilst my husband goes to his parents to see his dad.

[Guest]

Originally Posted by Fluffypenguin

I haven’t lost my father, but I still find Father’s Day tough and the weeks leading up to it.

My dad never wanted me, no idea why he didn’t walk away at birth seeing as him and my mum had split (although he lived one street away so kind of hard). He never paid a penny towards me.

I spent a fair bit of time with him growing up as my mum worked and he didn’t, but they weren’t all nice memories. He was a miserable bad tempered man and I found him quite frightening at times, he was very cold towards me and I never felt like he loved me.

When he got a girlfriend when I was 11, he just wanted me out the picture. He’d take her and her kids out, buy them things (stuff he’d never done for me). He even bought her daughter a laptop for Christmas and I got a £1 stationary set (not that he had ever spent a lot on me anyway, but that was a new low). He played some cruel tricks with me whilst he was with her.

When they split he kind of came back into my life (I was 14), but he never made the effort, it was always me and my half sister encouraging it. Anyway fast forward to when I was 18 and he cuts me out his life entirely and I didn’t even try to stop him.

It’s still very painful, I think of him most days and I’m bitter about what I never had. There’s no point me trying with him because he isn’t the man I want to call dad anyway… his choice to walk away after all🤷.

So I’ll be doing nothing whilst my husband goes to his parents to see his dad.

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I lost touch with my dad too, I’m sorry that you had such a tough time with yours. Can you not go with your DH? I had a wonderful Father In Law, I adopted him as my dad

[marypoppins38]

Originally Posted by Fluffypenguin

I haven’t lost my father, but I still find Father’s Day tough and the weeks leading up to it.

My dad never wanted me, no idea why he didn’t walk away at birth seeing as him and my mum had split (although he lived one street away so kind of hard). He never paid a penny towards me.

I spent a fair bit of time with him growing up as my mum worked and he didn’t, but they weren’t all nice memories. He was a miserable bad tempered man and I found him quite frightening at times, he was very cold towards me and I never felt like he loved me.

When he got a girlfriend when I was 11, he just wanted me out the picture. He’d take her and her kids out, buy them things (stuff he’d never done for me). He even bought her daughter a laptop for Christmas and I got a £1 stationary set (not that he had ever spent a lot on me anyway, but that was a new low). He played some cruel tricks with me whilst he was with her.

When they split he kind of came back into my life (I was 14), but he never made the effort, it was always me and my half sister encouraging it. Anyway fast forward to when I was 18 and he cuts me out his life entirely and I didn’t even try to stop him.

It’s still very painful, I think of him most days and I’m bitter about what I never had. There’s no point me trying with him because he isn’t the man I want to call dad anyway… his choice to walk away after all🤷.

So I’ll be doing nothing whilst my husband goes to his parents to see his dad.

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I am so sorry to read that. It must have been really heartbreaking and hard. Hugs to you.

[pretty_lucky]

Originally Posted by Fluffypenguin

I haven’t lost my father, but I still find Father’s Day tough and the weeks leading up to it.

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I'm so sorry for your loss - and it is a loss, even if he's not dead. My best friend's father was in her life, married to her mum until she was 15. Then he met someone else, became unreliable and broke her heart too many times to recall. He was in and out of her life while she had 4 kids but now she doesn't even know if he's aware that he has great grandkids.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you can treat yourself to a special something on Fathers' Day - you deserve it.

[Fluffypenguin]

Originally Posted by Nanna Frozen

I lost touch with my dad too, I’m sorry that you had such a tough time with yours. Can you not go with your DH? I had a wonderful Father In Law, I adopted him as my dad

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It sounds silly, but I don’t want to go with him because I just hate the day. I even come off social media for a day. I can’t stand sitting there while him and his sister get to celebrate their dad.
They are so very lucky to have had a wonderful life with wonderful parents and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel bitter about it.

His mum lives in cuckoo land as well. I’ve tried explaining to her before that I had tough times as a kid and I struggle with my family, but she tries to convince me that my life is sunshine and rainbows because I spend time with my mum (who is a recovering alcoholic with long term depression)… She just doesn’t want to see that my life isn’t a fairytale like hers and her family’s.

I’m glad you got a good FIL and was able to feel like that with him. Maybe in time I will.

[Fluffypenguin]

Originally Posted by marypoppins38

I am so sorry to read that. It must have been really heartbreaking and hard. Hugs to you.

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Thank you, that’s kind of you💕