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23 Jul 21, 08:49 PM |
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23 Jul 21, 08:51 PM |
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Work out what you’re jointly responsible for bill/loan wise. I'd stop direct debits or standing orders from your own account from anything your name is not on.
Contact the companies or council you both have joint commitments payment wise with too and explain you've separated and ask for advice But please get legal advice. And please please contact the bank with your joint account to say you've separated. |
23 Jul 21, 08:52 PM |
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Bon viveur and shopaholic
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I think this may be getting confusing and unhelpful for vampire. Stay strong over the weekend, always someone to listen but please get advice on Monday morning. Do not agree anything until then and don’t do anything drastic
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23 Jul 21, 08:54 PM |
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23 Jul 21, 08:56 PM |
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23 Jul 21, 10:17 PM |
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Thank you
I have a bed in the playroom. It’s the second big bedroom in the house so we always had a bed in there for when the girls want sleepovers when older etc so I’m ok on that. Only one loan is new. The first on that’s on my single account is one from 2 years ago. We made lots of overpayments on this so at least it will be cleared quicker. The second one is new which went on the joint. Yes he was earning £54000ish before covid. About £49000 now. We had an agreement to even overpay on his pension as his was matched better with his employer and mine was one of those that were more like savings accounts not a company one. He should be worried about his pension. There is a lot in there. No way would he have been able to do so much had we not have put in so much or had I not been there for the kids and he could work like he does. All my life has to revolve around his as he is the main earner. Around his shifts and having to change mine I’m just so cross. 16 f in years he’s been my everything. I’ve not gone any time in those years without talking to him. We’ve never spent more than a night apart while both in the house. He’s been my best friend. He’s not all that bad. I wish it hadn’t come to this. I’ll always love him. I really wish I didn’t love him then this would be easier I think. |
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23 Jul 21, 10:22 PM |
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I agree, Vampiress must be feeling very upset and distraught and shocked at the moment. She’s not going to take in all the information
Possibly a good start would be to contact CAB and see if she can get an advisor to go through her options one by one. It may be useful if she takes a friend or family member who may be able to think straight and retain the information too. Our local CAB office is trialling a new system where a client gets a dedicated advisor who would help them with advice on divorce, finances, benefits, debt, child support etc It sounds as if it would be a good start if Vampiress’s local CAB office had a similar system as the advisor would be able to gain her trust and support her. Obviously she would need to see a solicitor for the legal side of the divorce too. I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this Vampiress, life must feel impossible at the moment and it is going to be a hard few months for you. But you have your beautiful girls and you will get through this and out the other side eventually and there is help there to get you through it. We’re always here to chat too when you feel low xx |
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23 Jul 21, 10:23 PM |
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Join Date: Mar 16
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It's hard when any marriage breaks down. Hopefully you'll not try and hurt each other and with time be able to agree things like houses, kids etc. But just now it's hard. Get some rest if you can and speak to a solicitor on Monday.
People say divorce is like a bereavement so please take time for yourself and realise whatever you're feeling is ok. You will be ok at the other side. You'll get though this, it just takes time. We're all here for you. X Edited at 09:27 AM. |
23 Jul 21, 10:44 PM |
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I’ve just been reading a few comments, please don’t pay him anything until you have had legal advice. It sounds as if he already has. I’ve been there 30 years ago, you will get through this, sending you a hug.
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23 Jul 21, 11:58 PM |
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Excited about Disney
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Please just try and spend time with your girls, they are, and will always be a good thing to come
out of your marriage and they need you now more than ever. Try and do as little as possible in terms of sorting things out, that can all wait. When your life is turned upside down in a way we don’t want it is a bereavement, like another poster said. You have lost something you treasure and try and care of yourself and your girls. Good luck
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