V stressful time , how to cope.

[ERICSMUM]

Originally Posted by Snowball24

Thanks I'll do that tomorrow.
Had a price of of £200 for private consultation but that's only an initial meeting, they will probably have to do tests and scans which is a lot more.
Also difficult as he started a customer's shower room Monday and hasn't been able to go back yet due to the pain and the side effects from anti d.. 🙁

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Side effects that severe shouldn’t be tolerated.

Personally I’d be asking my GP for a review and possible change to different anti-Ds. There’s a vast range, acting in different ways and in different combinations. They should improve & enhance life, not subdue or make it worse.

Some anti depressants were actually developed to target pain and just happen to ‘hit’ parts of the brain where some people hold their depression. Very lucky if that happens with the first meds prescribed.

My GP and consultant tried several types, doses & combos before we found the right one for me. Took well over a year.

Have you thought about relaxation techniques for yourself ? Our council-run leisure centre runs Pilates, gentle stretching and aquarobics classes very reasonable prices. I do/have tried lots and found a few that really help my mood plus it’s nice to meet different people for an hour or so.

Health worries are bad enough but when coupled with money worries and the anxieties you feel about your children, you need to be very careful not to get overwhelmed.

Linda xx

[Minnie18]

Hi Snowball24,

Sorry to read about your dh and the effect its having on you both. Just thinking would your husbands self employment insurance not pay for medical care/sick leave.

[borntoshop]

I had to go privately for consultations, MRI and pain relief injections last year. I asked when the consultant saw me if he could refer me to the NHS waiting list and he said no, it come out of the gp's pot of money? Perhaps just my area. Privately the op was £7000. The treatment etc I had privately cost £2500. I haven't had the op and recently I was offered it on the NHS. The waiting list is 4 months for minor spinal surgery here.

I phoned our local Bupa and had a chat. You'd also need to find out which consultant specialises in that area.

I don't suffer with depression but not being able to walk etc certainly made things worse. More than a few nights I went to bed crying partly due to the pain but also becauseI felt I couldn't get any help.

I hope he gets the treatment he needs soon.

[Cherrypie]

Poor you - no extra advice but sending a hug x

[Snowball24]

Originally Posted by Minnie18

Hi Snowball24,

Sorry to read about your dh and the effect its having on you both. Just thinking would your husbands self employment insurance not pay for medical care/sick leave.

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We don't have any insurance x

[Loopylooloo]

This is difficult for all of you, I don’t know about the medical side but just wanted send a hug, and say I am sorry you are struggling x

[Snowball24]

Well thank you all. I did investigate private route but too expensive for us,but, took someone's advice on here and called to beg for an earlier appointment, they put him on the cancellation list,got a call today to say appointment now 16th December instead of 20 January.

Over the moon ,hoping things can start improving v soon.

Thanks Dibbers xxx

[Loopylooloo]

Good luck for his op, I really hope it goes well for him x

[snowbelle]

Snowball ,
I know this won’t be at the forefront of your mind at the moment but if your husband remains self employed please please take out self employed insurance, the consequences and subsequent costs to him if something goes wrong whilst on a job could be absolutely bankrupting.
I hope he gets up and about soon.
Good luck

[ERICSMUM]

Originally Posted by Snowball24

Well thank you all. I did investigate private route but too expensive for us,but, took someone's advice on here and called to beg for an earlier appointment, they put him on the cancellation list,got a call today to say appointment now 16th December instead of 20 January.

Over the moon ,hoping things can start improving v soon.

Thanks Dibbers xxx

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Excellent, you can now start to get somewhere before Christmas.

It just shows that it can pay to be more “assertive” with this sort of thing whilst being polite and pleasant too obviously.

Try to relax a bit this weekend, you’ve done as much as you can for now and should be pleased with yourself.

Linda x