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Old 22 Dec 19, 12:57 PM  
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Hi, How are things going. Hope you and your DD enjoy the hols xx
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Old 23 Dec 19, 02:37 PM  
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Hi, How are things going. Hope you and your DD enjoy the hols xx
Thank you for thinking of me.

Things aren't great. It's a difficult time of year, and loneliness has really started creeping in. Although I have lots of friends and family supporting me, it still feels like there's a huge hole where he should be.

Thanks everyone for your support - hope you all have a wonderful christmas and new year! x
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Thank you for thinking of me.

Things aren't great. It's a difficult time of year, and loneliness has really started creeping in. Although I have lots of friends and family supporting me, it still feels like there's a huge hole where he should be.

Thanks everyone for your support - hope you all have a wonderful christmas and new year! x
I really hope that you manage to overcome these feelings. I realise it won't be easy ...it is very much like a bereavement and there will be stages that you go through. Always know that there will be people on here when you are feeling lost and lonely xx
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You are still mourning what you had ... firsts in the year after ARE rough but at least with Christmas you can focus on your daughter and focus on her for the day. Try changing your routine on Christmas Day around a bit and start new traditions for just the two of you rather than what you did as a three.
It gets easier ...I promise x
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Thank you for thinking of me.

Things aren't great. It's a difficult time of year, and loneliness has really started creeping in. Although I have lots of friends and family supporting me, it still feels like there's a huge hole where he should be.

Thanks everyone for your support - hope you all have a wonderful christmas and new year! x
Do you know what? Truthfully I don't think you are going to have your best ever Christmas this year. There is going to be a hole. I don't think there is any sense in trying to kid yourself otherwise or that it is normal to feel otherwise. It is maybe something you need to get through this year. Dig deep.

But it is just a day and you can make the most of it and enjoy being around your loved ones. You can also take yourself off for a little while for a cry if you need to and treat yourself. But even if it isn't the best Christmas of your life at the time, I think you will look back and think it wasn't so bad to be surrounded by people that love you and support you.

The last time I had a relationship breakdown it was in the September and Christmas was hard that year. It wasn't such an established relationship as yours, not married, no kids, but it had been about a year and I was early 30s and was heavily invested.

So it was tough, but I look back and my family and friends were there. The following Christmas I was still single but it was fine, I don't even remember it specifically. By the third Christmas I had met DH and on the 4th Christmas since that split (and I have to count up to even remember it), DH proposed on Christmas Day. Now about to have our 15th Christmas together.

I have written this post out two or three times because I don't know if it is helpful or unhelpful and I am trying to be helpful. If it is not helpful, please let me know and I will delete.
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Do you know what? Truthfully I don't think you are going to have your best ever Christmas this year. There is going to be a hole. I don't think there is any sense in trying to kid yourself otherwise or that it is normal to feel otherwise. It is maybe something you need to get through this year. Dig deep.

But it is just a day and you can make the most of it and enjoy being around your loved ones. You can also take yourself off for a little while for a cry if you need to and treat yourself. But even if it isn't the best Christmas of your life at the time, I think you will look back and think it wasn't so bad to be surrounded by people that love you and support you.

The last time I had a relationship breakdown it was in the September and Christmas was hard that year. It wasn't such an established relationship as yours, not married, no kids, but it had been about a year and I was early 30s and was heavily invested.

So it was tough, but I look back and my family and friends were there. The following Christmas I was still single but it was fine, I don't even remember it specifically. By the third Christmas I had met DH and on the 4th Christmas since that split (and I have to count up to even remember it), DH proposed on Christmas Day. Now about to have our 15th Christmas together.

I have written this post out two or three times because I don't know if it is helpful or unhelpful and I am trying to be helpful. If it is not helpful, please let me know and I will delete.

It is helpful!

I appreciate you taking your time to post.

It isn't going to be a great Christmas - I am trying my best for my daughter to stay positive and make sure she enjoys herself.

Hopefully this time next year, things will be totally different for me. The future is unknown and scary right now.

I'd like to have a story that goes like yours one day!

Hope you have a lovely Christmas xx
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Be kind to yourself. This Christmas will be tough, but look for the love your family and friends will show you. And remember each Christmas following will get easier.
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I do remember after I had split up in November, long times ago and December was worst month because I lost my mum on 12th December 79. I was very upset and feel struggled. but turn out I married to wonderful man for 25 years. I know it is hard for you and I hope you have a lovely Xmas with your daughter and family.

Be strong

I hope 2020 turn out better year for you.

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I just want to send you a big hug, I hope that you and your daughter manage to have a nice christmas together despite everything that has happened xx
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Originally Posted by Claudette View Post
Do you know what? Truthfully I don't think you are going to have your best ever Christmas this year. There is going to be a hole. I don't think there is any sense in trying to kid yourself otherwise or that it is normal to feel otherwise. It is maybe something you need to get through this year. Dig deep.

But it is just a day and you can make the most of it and enjoy being around your loved ones. You can also take yourself off for a little while for a cry if you need to and treat yourself. But even if it isn't the best Christmas of your life at the time, I think you will look back and think it wasn't so bad to be surrounded by people that love you and support you.

The last time I had a relationship breakdown it was in the September and Christmas was hard that year. It wasn't such an established relationship as yours, not married, no kids, but it had been about a year and I was early 30s and was heavily invested.

So it was tough, but I look back and my family and friends were there. The following Christmas I was still single but it was fine, I don't even remember it specifically. By the third Christmas I had met DH and on the 4th Christmas since that split (and I have to count up to even remember it), DH proposed on Christmas Day. Now about to have our 15th Christmas together.

I have written this post out two or three times because I don't know if it is helpful or unhelpful and I am trying to be helpful. If it is not helpful, please let me know and I will delete.
Claudette, that’s a lovely post, so thoughtful and heartfelt. X

Op, this year might not be the best but things will get better and you will be happy again. Merry Christmas to you and your daughter. Xx
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