Lost my mum last night - the grieving process?

[parisdisneyfan]

This was just the same for me, I drove all the way from Edinburgh to Southampton with my dad and kids just after Mum died (mum died just before Christmas 1999 and we had to go home) I had never driven so far or paid much attention to the journey when we did it with Dh, who had gone back earlier for work, and I was so proud of myself. My first thought on getting home was must phone mum and tell her😪😓😪. The same has happened many times since and still
irrational thoughts of must phone/tell mum/dad (who died in 2012) pops up😓 It did last night and I had a few minutes of tears while dusting the living room. Someone likened it to a cut, absolute agony to start with but gradually it scabs over. Then you knock the scab with a memory/event and it hurts all over again but slowly the cut closes but you can knock that scab anytime it never completely heals. Be kind to yourself, take time out, big hugs, it is very very early days for you xxx

[linder]

Sorry to hear your sad news. You are not alone in feeling the way you do, losing your mam is colossal. Just let it out when you need to don’t holdback and be kind to yourself.

[2point]

So sad about your Mum.

It is worth looking into some kind of support and being aware of the various stages.

We lost my brother when he was 39, all of us suffered in various ways afterwards. Grief never goes way, it just changes shape and texture.

[MaryMendes]

Losing your mum is a tough one. I found it hard to face anyone for days. I think what you are describing is normal & I think it’s better to have the grief than deny it.

Take care of yourself though.

[dismamx2]

So sorry for your loss! It's coming close to 7 years since my mam passed and I still occasionally wake up and think I'll pop into mam's later, or if I see something she'd like and think I'll call her to see will I pick it up etc but it's not in a sad way anymore, I feel it's like keeping her memory alive. We always talk about her, always laugh over silly things she said/did

Of course I still have my sad moments, the first year is the hardest without doubt but it does get easier. I have never heard of the condition you mum had so I don't know if she was ill but my mam suffered for a long time so we knew (at least you tell yourself) she was better off

Take care of yourself x

[Guest]

What you are feeling is completely normal.
You’re having to deal with the unthinkable, the unbelievable.
I echo everything that others have said on this thread.
You take care x