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18 Jan 20, 10:07 PM |
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Join Date: Jul 05
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My uncle received his wife’s ashes in the same kind of jar but in red. Reminded me of a huge wholesalers ketchup bottle! Not dignifying at all.
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19 Jan 20, 08:50 AM |
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Imagineer
Join Date: Aug 09
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I have now had to do this twice for both parents. My father 18 years ago the ashes were in plastic urn. My mother last year, plastic bag inside a cardboard box. My mother orgainised by fathers cremation so I have no idea if she choose the urn or it was standard. My memory for my mothers cremation was that there was no choice around the ashes. However I am willing to be wrong as the whole conversation with the undertaker about funerall choices is not clear, having taken place the day after her death and many things are blurred.
I fully understand why you are upset. Personally I hated the whole ashes business. Scattering them didn't feel real and didn't for me lead to closure. The funeral was closure the ashes were reopening what was closed and didn't help. However that is personal and others will feel differently. The hardest bit was the container. I couldn't bring myself to throw it into the bin. I had to take the urn back to the crematorium who disposed of it for me. The box my wife disposed off. What did surprise me on reading it up was what the ashes were. Please stop here if the next bit may be upsetting My belief was that the ashes were mainly made up from the wood from the coffin. Not true that disappears in the heat. The ashes are indeed made up from bone. Think I preferred when I thought it was mainly wood. |
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20 Jan 20, 08:54 AM |
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VIP Dibber
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20 Jan 20, 04:36 PM |
#44
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Imagineer
Join Date: Apr 11
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It isn’t the norm at our local family run funeral directors, they put them in a plastic urn.
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20 Jan 20, 07:04 PM |
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Getting Excited
Join Date: Mar 17
Location: Kent
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Sorry for your loss. This is the norm sadly. Dad died 7 years ago, mum 6 months ago. Both were in plastic bags inside a blue cardboard box.
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20 Jan 20, 07:45 PM |
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It must depend where you are - my dad was in a red plastic urn thing (like described previously) we took him on a lifeboat boat out of Whitby and scattered him in the North Sea, - he was taken too soon, but he would have appreciated going back to one of his favourite childhood spots!
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20 Jan 20, 09:54 PM |
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With DH ashes the funeral director advised that the crematorium supplied a red plastic urn which apparels biodegradable so could be buried.
We buried the urn with half of the ashes in with his mothers grave and the funeral director did a reading we had had at the service Some I had made into a necklace DS had some made into a paperweight We also have some in a floral scatter tube that DS,DD and I plan to scatter but we aren't sure where as yet So at present it's sitting on the wall unit in the lounge |
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20 Jan 20, 10:12 PM |
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We did exactly the same for FIL. DH almost joined him in the water it was so rough.
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20 Jan 20, 10:17 PM |
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Imagineer
Join Date: Jul 13
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Sorry to hear of your loss 🙁. Yes this is the norm. I lost my stepfather last year and was quite surprised to see his ashes in a clear plastic bag in a container with just a sticker with his name and cremation number. I don't think my mum was offered any alternative at the time.
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25 Jan 20, 02:05 PM |
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The ashes are scattered on Dartmoor the empty box is going to be buried in our garden out of respect as we didn't know what to do with it and it is biodegradable.
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