Go Back   theDIBB > DIBB Community > DIBBing > General Chat
Forgotten Password?
Notices
General Chat This forum is for general topics and chat type threads.
Reply
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Unread 16 Oct 19, 03:17 AM  
Link to this Post
#1
Moleymole
VIP Dibber
 
Join Date: Jul 09
Husband leaving us

Im awake at this hour reeling from the news that my husband has been having an affair and is leaving me and the two kids. He doesnt want to be married anymore. Next year was to be our 20th and had a Disney holiday planned.
Things havent been right for a while, since I started my master degree last year hes just changed completely. Hed always adored me I felt but that seems to change, I could feel. There was some internet cheating earlier this year, that I tried to forgive for the sake of the children, he was sorry and promised that he loved me. Things improved, I tried my end to be more loving as hed said he needed that. I suppose things felt more platonic after all these years and there been trust issues with finances etc.
I feel so stupid for being a kept woman all of these years and am panicking now about that and the impact on our beautiful kids. I dont know where to turn. Im taking a few days off uni, apparently hes in a hotel tonight as I needed space, but will talk more tomorrow. I feel foolish and alone but accept we had grown apart. Its the kids (17) and (14) that break my heart as they are very delicate emotionally, as am I having suffered bad depression over the years.
Sorry to waffle on.
__________________
Westridge Villa 2008/2009
OKW 2010/2011/and 2012 also Anna Maria
Saratoga Springs 2013 and Anna Maria
OKW again 2015 and Anna Maria
2017 Contemporary Resort & Anna Maria
ALWAYS AUGUST!





Edited at 03:26 AM.
Moleymole is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 03:42 AM  
Link to this Post
#2
ChrisS
Imagineer
 
Join Date: Nov 10
Location: Durham
Mole hin I'm sorry to read this, but you are much stronger than you may realise, ahh, that old cliche, but I believe many mothers are very strong because they'll ensure their bairns are protected as much as possible. Currently your hubby may be genuine about no longer wanting to be married because of his new relationship or it may be he's in lust and believes the grass is greener elsewhere, only time will tell. However it plays out you'll likely find your way for all parties involved, and if your husband is a good man you'll hopefully resolve in a civil matter, even if you may want to shout at times, as it'll likely be better for you all at day's end.

Good luck hin, there's many Dibbers who'll help support you best they can.
__________________
ChrisS is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans
Wintering on Bokeelia...
Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 03:54 AM  
Link to this Post
#3
Moleymole
Thread Starter
VIP Dibber
 
Join Date: Jul 09
Originally Posted by ChrisS View Post
Mole hin I'm sorry to read this, but you are much stronger than you may realise, ahh, that old cliche, but I believe many mothers are very strong because they'll ensure their bairns are protected as much as possible. Currently your hubby may be genuine about no longer wanting to be married because of his new relationship or it may be he's in lust and believes the grass is greener elsewhere, only time will tell. However it plays out you'll likely find your way for all parties involved, and if your husband is a good man you'll hopefully resolve in a civil matter, even if you may want to shout at times, as it'll likely be better for you all at day's end.

Good luck hin, there's many Dibbers who'll help support you best they can.
Thank you.
__________________
Westridge Villa 2008/2009
OKW 2010/2011/and 2012 also Anna Maria
Saratoga Springs 2013 and Anna Maria
OKW again 2015 and Anna Maria
2017 Contemporary Resort & Anna Maria
ALWAYS AUGUST!




Moleymole is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 05:13 AM  
Link to this Post
#4
lorrie36
VIP Dibber

 
lorrie36's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 09
Right now youll feel like the world is caving in. Try and take a step back and some deep breathes.
You will be ok, kids are more resilient than you think. They may surprise you.
You will think of all the reasons why he has done this, but the one thing you mustnt forget is that he has done this not you. He has made his choice.
Do not feel stupid about being a kept woman, were you comfortable and felt safe with how things were? If yes, then theres nothing wrong with that.
You will get through this, you are strong, you are enough. Its amazing how strong 1 person can be when life takes a wee detour.
But if you can, carry on with your degree when you are ready because that is something for you that is yours, you are working hard for that.
Im sorry this has happened, but you can be stronger than you realise. 💕
__________________
Find a positive in every day,that way you'll always have a reason to smile

lorrie36 is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans
Years of saving but it is so worth it.
Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 05:17 AM  
Link to this Post
#5
Moleymole
Thread Starter
VIP Dibber
 
Join Date: Jul 09
Originally Posted by lorrie36 View Post
Right now youll feel like the world is caving in. Try and take a step back and some deep breathes.
You will be ok, kids are more resilient than you think. They may surprise you.
You will think of all the reasons why he has done this, but the one thing you mustnt forget is that he has done this not you. He has made his choice.
Do not feel stupid about being a kept woman, were you comfortable and felt safe with how things were? If yes, then theres nothing wrong with that.
You will get through this, you are strong, you are enough. Its amazing how strong 1 person can be when life takes a wee detour.
But if you can, carry on with your degree when you are ready because that is something for you that is yours, you are working hard for that.
Im sorry this has happened, but you can be stronger than you realise. 💕
Thank you
__________________
Westridge Villa 2008/2009
OKW 2010/2011/and 2012 also Anna Maria
Saratoga Springs 2013 and Anna Maria
OKW again 2015 and Anna Maria
2017 Contemporary Resort & Anna Maria
ALWAYS AUGUST!




Moleymole is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 06:04 AM  
Link to this Post
#6
Universal VR
Imagineer
 
Universal VR's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 11
So sorry to read this. My husband left me for someone else when my girls were young so I understand what youre going through. That relationship didnt last and he ended up alone until he died 5 years ago. I moved on but have issues with my current OH who has been online cheating. You will find the strength to get through this. Believe in yourself. Stay strong x
__________________
Orlando '01, '04, '06, '08, '10, '11, '12 (x2), '13 (x2) '14 (x2) '15 (x2) '16 (x2) '17, '18 (x2), 19
New York x 3
Washington
San Francisco
Universal VR is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans
Ready for another one,
Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 06:07 AM  
Link to this Post
#7
dubletrub
Imagineer
 
Join Date: Sep 09

theDIBB Guidebook
Guidebook Photos: 3
Mobile

So sorry to read this Moley, sending hugs for you and the kids xx
__________________
Jenny
July/August 2010 ~ Villa, Mission Park & RPR, July/August 2012 ~ DIBB Villa, Highgate Park & RPR, July/August 2014 ~ Sadly had to cancel, August 2019 ~ POR 1st time on site
New York 2017, trip report HERE
dubletrub is online now Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans
POFQ, 1st time onsite :)
Reply With Quote
Unread 16 Oct 19, 06:34 AM  
Link to this Post
#8
happytraveller
Imagineer
 
happytraveller's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 04
You will get through this. First you have to take it all in. You dont just get chucked into this and find your way! It takes time. With every twist and turn you will find the strength you need. Im so so sorry x
happytraveller is offline Girl Mouse Click to view Members Gallery Click to view Members Trip Plans
Mexico
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Forum Jump


All times are GMT +1. The time now is 03:34 PM.


Powered by vBulletin - Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.

theDIBB Menu


US Dollar Rates
ASDA  $1.2607
CaxtonFX  $1.2558
Covent Garden FX  $1.2672
FAIRFX  $1.2560
John Lewis  $1.2628
M&S  $1.2358
Post Office  $1.2371
Sainsburys  $1.2592
TESCO  $1.2619
Travelex  $1.2519
Updated: 14:30 14/11/2019

theDIBB Charities
Cancer Research UK
DIBB Members have Donated: £10,130
£


Macmillan Cancer Support
DIBB Members have Donated: £1,085
£

Euro Rates
ASDA  €1.1454
CaxtonFX  €1.1407
Covent Garden FX  €1.1522
FAIRFX  €1.1415
John Lewis  €1.1479
M&S  €1.1259
Post Office  €1.1243
Sainsburys  €1.1440
TESCO  €1.1463
Travelex  €1.1375
Updated: 14:30 14/11/2019

Orlando Weather
Florida Time
Thu 14th Nov 9:34am
Now: 20C/68F
Light Rain
Light Rain
Cloud Cover: 90%
Rainfall: 0.25mm
Wind: 7mph - NE Arrow points to where the wind is coming from.
Pressure: 1021mb
Humidity: 77%
Illuminations Smoke
Updated: 14:30 14/11/2019