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Unread 5 Jun 19, 02:58 PM  
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Originally Posted by greekgranny View Post
Stop feeding and watering him and don't do his washing and cleaning. If he doesn't like it he can always move out.
Just tell him you are going and he will be looking after your daughter and don't stand any nonsense.
I was about to type the same added with switching the internet off usually my trump card !
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I know what I'd be doing if he was mine... showing him the door and making him fend for himself. I bet he'd look after her if you offered to pay him
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Originally Posted by greekgranny View Post
Stop feeding and watering him and don't do his washing and cleaning. If he doesn't like it he can always move out.
Just tell him you are going and he will be looking after your daughter and don't stand any nonsense.
This, it is your house, they are you rules, make them and stand by them.
My kids don't really do housework or cooking off their own backs but if I ask them they wouldn't tell me no ! They are 20 and 18 and although not perfect they would always help me where they can
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He is like this because you are allowing it , time for some tough love , like another poster said , stop feeding him and doing his laundry until he respects what you do for him and helps you out when you need it
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How old is your daughter Minnie? Is she old enough to look after herself with just needing the older brother there? If she is, I would be pointing out to your eldest that you arent asking him to fully babysit, just help you out and check on his sister for one night. I would then point out that you do a lot more for him than that and if he thinks its unreasonable then maybe you would stop doing so much for him from now on. There comes a time when they have to realise you are entitled to a bit of help around the house too and he has to pull his weight.
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Originally Posted by Smilesonfaces View Post
I was about to type the same added with switching the internet off usually my trump card !
This would be my suggestion too. Sit him down and tell him if he doesn't starting pulling his weight and contributing you will be changing the wifi password. Hopefully the threat would be enough but if he doesn't change his ways make sure you follow it through.
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dd is 7 so does need someone to look after her. I've tried sitting him down and switching off the internet nothing works. He just says he's moving out and we say ok then nothing changes.
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Originally Posted by greekgranny View Post
Stop feeding and watering him and don't do his washing and cleaning. If he doesn't like it he can always move out.
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Yep I agree with this- youve tried talking and asking, you get ignored. Time for one more conversation with him and you calmly tell him as hes not contributing in any way to the household finances or duties, its now up to him to provide his own food, and its up to him to do his own housework ie clothes-washing, room-cleaning etc. Youre not asking, youre telling.
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