When the pain of losing a dog is too hard to bear..I am getting tempted.

[Nicksgirl]

I have loved and lost dogs all my life, it is beyond heartbreaking. After losing Molly I never thought I would get over it, I had Mertie and Mr. Douglas.

Now I have lost my Mr. Douglas I am finding it just so very hard.
He probably meant more to us that we or anyone ever knew. He was disabled all his life and was a "baby" all his life, he had to be near, on you and everyday he made you laugh, cry and was just a dog the like we will never see again. Now I have Mertie and Nala, but really would like to get another dog.

Now due to Douglas' disabilities we had to do everything for him, it took me 2 years to get him to walk well, he had a pram (well 3) in the end, but he loved to walk, mainly on grass as his displasia was awful on concrete. For the whole seven years, it was like having a baby who needed you all the time, it was so easy too as he was the most loving and wonderful dog in the world (as was Molly), yet he was a real baby.

Our house just isn't the same without him, he was a power force a real one off wonder. Mertie and Nala are gorgeous but they are "dogs". They are sort of independent, dont get me wrong, loving and wonderful but not like him at all.

Now coming to the point, I have had my eye out for a disabled dog for a few months. I want to give another litle less fortunate one a good life like we gave him.

Yesterday I found one, hes 3 has more disabilities than Douglas, is going to cost quite a lot of money but is thankfully insured. He looks gorgeous.

Now my husband is not happy at all, he first said No more dogs and after Douglas he said we could never ever replace such an amazing dog.

Well last night I was norty and made enquiries and today answered all the adoption questions. I know in my heart I can turn my husband round, but everyone is accusing me of not being fair.
Its not my fault honestly, I come from a family of great animal lovers and have that gene right in my heart.

We have been talking but he's still not up for the idea, I have reminded him that he was adamant we were not having another dog when I found Mr. Douglas, and keep reminding him, if I had not gone on, we would have never had the best 7 years of our life, even with my Cancer I would go through it all again just to have him back.

If you haven't reached for the noose yet dibbers, I know I am being unfair... but I feel its time to have another dog, especially one who is in dire need of someone experienced and someone who has the time to love him, like he should be loved.

Am I so wrong ?

[Nicksgirl]

Can I get round anyone that way...

[Bootrip2]

I think only you know the answers whether it is fair or not on your husband. You always seem so very caring towards your dogs. I am sure you will come to the right decision in the end. X

[Lisa123wm]

I understand why you need to and think you should if you can.
But, it really should be a joint decision and you need to convince your hubby that it’s the right one.
I couldn’t do it without his 100% agreement and commitment.
So, good luck!

[Eeyore rocks]

Hats off to you for wanting to give a disabled dog a loving home...when my beloved Comet (white GSD) went, within 8 weeks we went to look at a litter of puppies...couldn’t decide which one...so got 2! Picked them up at 8/9 weeks...they have been amazing... this was after hubby said no more!

I’m sure your hubby will come around when you meet the dog.

[Nicksgirl]

Originally Posted by Eeyore rocks

Hats off to you for wanting to give a disabled dog a loving home...when my beloved Comet (white GSD) went, within 8 weeks we went to look at a litter of puppies...couldn’t decide which one...so got 2! Picked them up at 8/9 weeks...they have been amazing... this was after hubby said no more!

I’m sure your hubby will come around when you meet the dog.

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Beautiful, Beautiful, Beautiful. I know hubby will come round, bless him, hes put up with me for all these years and I know it would be wonderful for us. I think because he is a lot older than me, he puts his sensible head on and I lead with my heart. I know when I was ill for that year, he was my saviour and I do feel awful that I am putting pressure on him. But, thats me I suppose.

I told my late boy, he couldn't go before the cottages we had booked in Norfolk for this year and next year... you wait till I see him again, we will have words...
Or perhaps I will be just too in love to be angry every again...
Your babies are beautiful. xxx
xx

[levtweeney]

It sounds like a dog would be lucky to have you both as their carers. You sound like you have the capacity to give more love to another dog, which I commend you for. Only thing would be is to get your hubby onside so you can both enjoy the experience together. Good luck 🤞

[duchy]

In every marriage there is compromise.
It’s time to sit down and talk out why in this particular instance your needs are more important than your husband’s surely.
He must have his reasons for not wanting another dog just as you have yours.
It’s a bit like having a baby (without the carrying and Labour) , no one would say it was right for a woman to have another child because her husband wanted one if she didn’t .

[jdouds]

Originally Posted by Eeyore rocks

Hats off to you for wanting to give a disabled dog a loving home...when my beloved Comet (white GSD) went, within 8 weeks we went to look at a litter of puppies...couldn’t decide which one...so got 2! Picked them up at 8/9 weeks...they have been amazing... this was after hubby said no more!

I’m sure your hubby will come around when you meet the dog.

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Lovely pups but please be careful dogs should not be near a car driver, very dangerous.

[Eeyore rocks]

Originally Posted by jdouds

Lovely pups but please be careful dogs should not be near a car driver, very dangerous.

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Thank you for your concern, they are now two and a half... they did travel home safely in a crate. 🙂