Just not coping ?

[Loobylou_82]

Sending you a big hug.

[janeywaney]

Aw bless you, sounds like you have a huge amount to deal with at the moment 😕 As others have said get the teens to take meals/brews to him. Also try and get them to help with jobs around the house for you too, you need to share the load and not have it all to do.
Sending a big hug

Jane xx

[lardyboy]

Just wanted to say hang in there, as the old phrase goes "this too shall pass". No matter how hard it seems, it will get better. In the mean time, if you don't feel comfortable speaking to your GP, maybe try Mind - mind.uk/

Give them a call or contact them online, they will listen and may be able to offer advice, they helped my daughter on a number of occasions.

Personally, just offloading on here a few weeks ago about my own worries helped me no end, so hope you feel a little less pressure on you for a bit now you've done the same.

There's always someone here to listen, even if they don't have any advice to offer, it's nice to know someone is listening.

Take care

Lardy

[vowels]

I agree with the other posters.

Please look after your own mental health, you have so much to deal with but you need to take care of youself.

Get your teens to help, make meals, tidy, shop. They are not babies and are of an age were they can take on this responsibility including knowing how much you are struggling to cope with work, housework and caring for your husband.

You also need to tell your husband.

If he is cocooning himself in bed, he is probably unaware of how much you are dealing with.
He needs to start to share the load and that means taking responsibility for his personal care and his recovery.
Unless he has been told to be on total bedrest, he should be up, dressed and downstairs everyday. He will probably need a few breaks with his feet up on the sofa but he needs to engage with the rest of the family. Hiding away only hinders your recovery.

I was on enforced bedrest for four months after ankle surgery and it was a bloody nightmare. I was either on the sofa, feet elevated or in bed, which had been set up downstairs, mostly in bed. I could not have managed being cut off from family life by staying in my bedroom and my poor husband would have been driven demented - as I suspect you feel - if he had to run up and down stairs multiple times a day to ensure I was well.

This is a horrible situation you are in, and I am sorry there is nothing else we can do to help.

Please get your children to help, tell your husband how you are struggling and please, please look after yourself. I hope things improve for you soon.

[Snowball24]

Thank you to all, my dad came over for a coffee in the garden so managed to get dh downstairs, he was chatting and laughing with my dad so that's good. Its a hard , long road and i agree i need to take care of myself as i am really feeling run down x

Everyone is so kind x

[Loopylooloo]

Originally Posted by Snowball24

Thank you to all, my dad came over for a coffee in the garden so managed to get dh downstairs, he was chatting and laughing with my dad so that's good. Its a hard , long road and i agree i need to take care of myself as i am really feeling run down x

Everyone is so kind x

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Yes, just try and take care of yourself, have nice bath, early night etc, when you can. Hopefully things will start feeling better for you soon x

[Snowball24]

Thanks ,most nights I try and have a bath with a glass of wine as its so relaxing x

[louiseybobs]

Gosh so sorry to read this

I'm not sure what your husband does but if he can make furniture to sell Etsy is free to use. The rustic shelves and tables are popular.

Good luck and sending love xxx

[EssexSue]

You know what the pandemic is blooming hard enough without all your added problems. Perhaps it's best they have both happened together so when life gets back to normal it will be better all round.

As for Mumsnet, great entertainment if you don't get involved!

You have had lots of good advice on here so I'll just say take care of yourself X

[megaflyer]

Originally Posted by daytonababe

Wix is free to use I think , couldn’t he use the laptop at night or one of the kids tablets ?

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Indeed or handover your ie OP laptop when you are normally online/Dibbing etc ? We can wait - a few minutes here and then of his time (and OPs supporting him) will pay great dividends