So sad for DD - teen drama

[daytonababe]

You need to tell the school .

It needs to be recorded down what they are doing and looked into

By not doing so they will just carry on and once bored of targeting your daughter move on to someone else

My kids were both bullied , my daughter horrifically, the school were useless to begin with ( well the Head was , the head of year was backing me ) .. and it go to the point where I got the Police involved ..
3 of my daughters bullies ended up with cautions for malicious communications ( basically bullying by text / social media )


Log it all down and print off any written bullying .

My daughter wasn’t keen on me telling the school to start with .. but I’m the adult and I explained why I was doing it and whilst fearful of repercussions she did know it was the right thing to do.


I would also send her today , if she stays off school the issue will still be there when she does go back .

[DUNXandWILL]

OMFG honey, I'm broken hearted for you and for P 💔

I'm going through a similar thing with K at the moment (looks like primary school girls are just as nasty and twisted as high school girls) 😡

I cannot understand what girls doing this to other girls does to benefit anyone! I've been swinging between blaming ourselves for bringing our kids up to be respectful, have manners and being polite, it gets them nowhere against these feril wee monsters who seem to take great joy in terrorising and mentally torturing others!

I've been keeping the school fully updated and have printed out screenshots of nasty messages etc but if I hear 1 more time "our hands are tied" I think I'll swing for someone!

Pm me honey... If you want to talk further, I'm always here for you and your family 💖

D x

[sam7]

I am so so sorry. I was in a similar situation with my DD. She contacted her dad and told him she was feeling ill and he needed to get her, she then confessed to me she was being bullied - I guesses as she had contacted dad and not me to get her. I contacted the school and made an appointment to speak to her head of year the next morning, they were brilliant and knocked a lot of the bullying on the head by talking to the relevant people, they also made DD feel supported and that this was not her fault. She went after that and made different friends and was happy.

[toots82]

Thanks everyone. I'll reply individually later. Shes in and been told shes going to be approached at break. She has pals around her thankfully. I feel so helpless but am just texting with her and trying to support her but also keep her there. The sooner she becomes old news, the better.

[floridasgirl]

Originally Posted by toots82

Thanks everyone. I'll reply individually later. Shes in and been told shes going to be approached at break. She has pals around her thankfully. I feel so helpless but am just texting with her and trying to support her but also keep her there. The sooner she becomes old news, the better.

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Told shes going to be approached at break? ! Is that a threat?! Just tell her to stay in public places but not look like she's hiding away.
I'm so glad dd is past this horrible teenage phase. Girls can be so nasty!
Sending you and your dd hugs, its horrible when you dont feel like you can help!
If she starts to feel more upset by it, I would def inform school. It may make it worse at first but will be sorted quicker!

[DISNEYLIZ]

I don't know to say, except keep notes of everything and report it to the school.
Hope your dd is ok. Sending both of you a massive hug.

[toots82]

Originally Posted by floridasgirl

Told shes going to be approached at break? ! Is that a threat?! Just tell her to stay in public places but not look like she's hiding away.
I'm so glad dd is past this horrible teenage phase. Girls can be so nasty!
Sending you and your dd hugs, its horrible when you dont feel like you can help!
If she starts to feel more upset by it, I would def inform school. It may make it worse at first but will be sorted quicker!

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Yeah they've told her shes going to get hit by one of the girls. Shes stressing, I told her to go to guidance but she wont. Shes just told me that the pals shes hanging about with today are going to the same area as this other 2 hang about in and what should she do. I asked what she thinks and shes said shes going with them. She doesnt want to look weak even though shes terrified inside.

[Scaramouche]

Please report this to the school. As someone who was bullied from primary into uni, not reporting it was the stupidest thing I’ve ever done.

[pinkbelle]

Originally Posted by toots82

Believe me I feel this too. But at the moment all I can see is a 13 year old as white as a sheet forcing herself out the door to face it. I'm really concerned about making it worse. Shes away for her bus. I'll be in constant contact with her all day. I feel like I'm feeding her to the lions but also like it's the right thing to do.

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I know how you are feeling. If it’s anything like the school where I used to work, there are very strict policies on phone use. I agree that trying to keep her routine the same and encouraging her to continue as normal, is the right thing to do. Just letting the school know what has happened, and how you want it dealt with, means they may cut her some slack on the phone use.

A lot of school staff are parents too, they have dealt with this from the parent angle as well as school policy angle.

I read your latest update, this really isn’t okay. You need to call the school Now so they are aware. Encouraging your daughter to be brave and strong is wonderful, letting her walk into a potentially dangerous/ harmful situation, isn’t. I think you know that.

[emwratten]

Is there an older child in a different year group that your daughter can speak too? Some kind of buddy system? Maybe being with an older pupil will stop the ‘bullies’. Sending lots of love x