Bereavement supporting each other :)

[PoohBears#1fan]

I'm so sorry to read that, sorry I haven't been keeping up with this thread with everything going on at the minute and the holiday just days away now!

I hope your daughter's infection is well on the mend by now, I can sympathise with how it made you feel, I changed hospitals I work in in June & I'm so pleased as I was working in our local hospital, there were just so many reminders lurking round every corner of my parents.

I'd walked into cardiology one day to borrow an ECG machine not long after losing dad and was felt like I'd been punched in the stomach! The last time I walked in there, my parents were both sitting there waiting for my dad's appointment. I could still 'see' them sitting there, delighted and surprised to see me (and always proud when they saw me in my uniform!) <3

[PoohBears#1fan]

I updated the plaque on dad’s memorial bench last night ❤️

[3disneykids]

Originally Posted by PoohBears#1fan

I'm so sorry to read that, sorry I haven't been keeping up with this thread with everything going on at the minute and the holiday just days away now!

I hope your daughter's infection is well on the mend by now, I can sympathise with how it made you feel, I changed hospitals I work in in June & I'm so pleased as I was working in our local hospital, there were just so many reminders lurking round every corner of my parents.

I'd walked into cardiology one day to borrow an ECG machine not long after losing dad and was felt like I'd been punched in the stomach! The last time I walked in there, my parents were both sitting there waiting for my dad's appointment. I could still 'see' them sitting there, delighted and surprised to see me (and always proud when they saw me in my uniform!) <3

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Firstly you don't need to apologise.
Thank you for understanding her infection is clearing up nicely thank you. It was difficult as during the night I looked over and expected to see my Mum. Unfortunately, life continues and I know I have to be strong for the kids.
It must be so difficult for you to have this consistent reminder in your life at least I only had to face it by accident.

Your plaque is lovely btw xxx

[Talland 2016]

3disneykids I hope your daughter continues to improve
Thanks for setting up this thread
My DH died unexpectedly of Sepsis whilst on a training course in Stevenage in 2016.
The NHS were so on the ball and treated him so quickly but sadly he didn't make it
Just after he died a friend was talking about the difference between knowing someone is dying and that of an unexpected death

If somehas a prognosis where they are expected to die it's like there is a wave creeping slowly towards you

If it is sudden and unexpected the wave comes suddenly from behind

Either way the wave will totally knock you off your feet.
Either way you will need to get back up on your feet
Bit it's so so hard at times

[3disneykids]

Originally Posted by Talland 2016

3disneykids I hope your daughter continues to improve
Thanks for setting up this thread
My DH died unexpectedly of Sepsis whilst on a training course in Stevenage in 2016.
The NHS were so on the ball and treated him so quickly but sadly he didn't make it
Just after he died a friend was talking about the difference between knowing someone is dying and that of an unexpected death

If somehas a prognosis where they are expected to die it's like there is a wave creeping slowly towards you

If it is sudden and unexpected the wave comes suddenly from behind

Either way the wave will totally knock you off your feet.
Either way you will need to get back up on your feet
Bit it's so so hard at times

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Thank you for your kind words. My daughter made a great recovery
What a good analogy... I don't think there is an easy or a hard way to lose somebody. It must have been completely shocking to lose someone so suddenly. The loss of my dad was the first real experience of a death in the family and was so painful.
For both my parents it was a long and painful experience but still felt like a shock at the end.
Sending you love

[3disneykids]

Mum would have been 62 today. I just feel very sad. I know this feeling will never go but I just feel so raw at the moment

[Talland 2016]

Sending virtual hugs for today xxx

[Sandra & co]

Originally Posted by 3disneykids

Mum would have been 62 today. I just feel very sad. I know this feeling will never go but I just feel so raw at the moment

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So sorry, firsts are awful. I am not looking forward to Christmas this year, had my birthday just after my mum died, dds prom and my mum had paid for her dress. My dd picked it and she saw a picture of it, them my dds 16th birthday and we had our holiday to Florida that my mum had helped with. Its just a reminder what your loved one is missing out on x

[3disneykids]

Originally Posted by Sandra & co

So sorry, firsts are awful. I am not looking forward to Christmas this year, had my birthday just after my mum died, dds prom and my mum had paid for her dress. My dd picked it and she saw a picture of it, them my dds 16th birthday and we had our holiday to Florida that my mum had helped with. Its just a reminder what your loved one is missing out on x

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Thanks. Yes it really is I am trying so hard to keep things together. It is hard because some days I can be 'fine' and some I feel like I can barely drag myself out of bed...luckily I have young kids and they help me to continue as normal as possible

[PoohBears#1fan]

Thinking of you, it’s just hideous

I’m currently struggling with coming back from the holiday & not doing the usual Sharing with mum about it, she’s usually phoned as soon as we’re through the airport as we know she’d be wanting to know we’d landed safely & to hear all about it. Xx