45 years old -should I worry about this?

[amy56]

Hi all!

I’m now 45 years old and I’m constantly worrying about my memory - everyone says it’s normal, and probably because I’m always worrying about other people.

My line of work means that I am involved in the lives of several people at once, and then come home and am sorting out the family as well.

I never forget things people have told me about their lives/problems etc, but unless I put appointments or jobs to do in my phone diary, then I literally would forget to do anything! I rely on my phone to tell me where and when I have to be each day!

I’m generally worried about this (although I do wonder whether part of its down to becoming so reliant on my phone to ‘remember’ things, that my brain isn’t being used, and therefore it’s a vicious circle?) - but the main reason for posting is that I used to be a fantastic speller (it was the one thing I would say i did well and if you asked me to spell something I would know immediately and I’d be right), but now almost every time I type, I end up at some point using the wrong word - the number of times I’ll post something on here and then read through what I’ve written and have to edit it due to using the wrong version of a word. I’ve just this minute typed a text to a friend and have written ‘ I think I will soon need to where glasses’! Now I know full well I should of typed ‘wear’, so why didn’t I?!

Does anyone else suffer from this? Is it an age thing? I am beginning to feel like I’m going slightly loopy! ☹️

[Ryles]

I’m 42 and my memory definitely isn’t what it used to be. I have to write literally everything down at work and I mean everything. If I don’t it doesn’t get done! Weird thing is I can remember things that happened 20 years ago! 😐

[Michyloulou]

I feel your pain. Like you I’m fine at work (I’m sure it’s because mentally I know I have to be focused), but at home juggling the 4 kids & our numerous appointments/clubs, I rely on my calendar (albeit old-fashioned hand written). I seem to experience a lot of mind-fog at home. For example, my son’s football training has always been the same 2 evenings & time, but just recently I had to ask him what time he needed to be there at - I couldn’t think for the life of me! So I write everything on my calendar. I know that if my phone rings & I get asked about my availability for a particular date, I always consult the calendar as my mind otherwise goes blank. So I’m with you all the way on this.

[Blue nose]

I'm the same on spelling and think I've just gotten lazy with auto correct..

As for remembering family dates I think we're so used to technology in our working lives we just need to make records, even in a paper diary for regular stuff.

What I'm trying to say is we sound the same... Hopefully normal 😜

[DiszeeBelle]

I'm getting to this stage now and I'm 40. I too worry because it seems to have crept up on me. I have a fairly stressful job then come home and have to do all thinking and planning. I have calendars up on walls and everything in my phone to keep me right.

[Floridatilly]

I am also 45 and my memory is shocking. I am not sure if it’s because I am premenopausal? I will ask friends things and they say that I asked them that last week! I chat with other mums at school, stand with the same bunch each day and they have said their names & ages but I have totally forgotten. It’s quite embarrassing some times to be honest. I do worry about repeating myself.
I wouldn’t be surprised if I have asked the same questions over & over on here.
If I don’t write a list when I go shopping I have no idea what I need and I constantly make notes on the go or I will just forget.
I am hoping that’s normal at my age?

[amy56]

Originally Posted by Ryles

Weird thing is I can remember things that happened 20 years ago! 😐

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I’m exactly the same! Particularly song lyrics! A song came on the radio the other day that I literally hadn’t heard for 30 years and I knew it word for word - but ask me what I did yesterday I draw a total blank!

I now get irrationally excited if I remember something that DH can’t, as he doesn’t seem to be remotely effected (despite being the same age), but I guess he isn’t organising the household as well as his work! 😂

Thank you everyone for your reassurances - it’s made me feel better (although of course, I’m now worried for you all too! )

[Melanie R]

It’s very common in women of a certain age - there are several of us at work with the same issue! I was chatting to a lady I had worked with for over 25 years a few weeks ago, if you had offered me a million pound I wouldn’t have been able to tell you her name - it was at least 2 hours later before I remembered!

[Guest]

I don’t think you should just accept it, you are pretty young to be losing memory. But I think the mind needs exercising as much as the body, why not get an app that stretches the mind and do it daily, I got one called elevate, not particularly recommending it as there are others but it is the type of thing I am thinking of.

[Mexy02]

Mine disappeared when the menopause started , I’m shocking with names .