Teen son not making decision about holiday

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Hi there!

I have a teen boy, who will be 17 in June.

He’s a sensible kid for the most part, but he’s in two minds about whether to come on holiday with us this summer.

We have planned 4.5 weeks in Florida. Including a Disney Cruise.

He has a new(ish) girlfriend (3 months) and doesn’t want to leave her.

I have more to book for this holiday and things that will need to be cancelled if he decides not to come along…preferably before I lose money.

The problem is…he doesn’t want to make a decision yet. He says it’s ‘lose lose’ for him.

If he decides to come with us, he misses out on seeing his girlfriend.

If he decides to stay home, she works two jobs so he might not see her much anyway and he misses out on Florida. Or she might finish with him before we go.

Just a note: he sometimes doesn’t see her for 2-3 weeks at a time due to her jobs and they don’t go to the same school.

I’ve offered for him to join us just for two weeks…not good enough.

He is simply dragging out this decision and I am getting anxious as I have so much I’d like to book or change depending.

I’ve just had two years of no holiday planning due to covid…and now with *122 days* to go, I can’t plan due to an indecisive 17 year old.

I’ve paid for flights and car and the main accommodation…I have more accommodation to book and tickets etc.

Am I being selfish trying to hurry him to make a decision? He gets cross when I bring it up and it turns into an argument.

Any advice?

Thank you 😊