I need advice from a hairdresser

Sue · 1 Oct 21, 01:55 PM

I’ve posted something similar before but asking for more help if possible
I’m looking for a new hairdresser and there are several to choose from near me. I don’t think I’m hard to please, but don’t seem able to communicate what I want very well

I have tried a new hairdresser three times now and she does my highlights really well,but each time I ask for layers to be put in (I have a lot of hair, to thin it out), shaping to frame my face and a choppy, wispy fringe.
She thins out the ends, does not frame it and I get a thinned out but straight fringe. In other words, I leave disappointed and with hair looking exactly the same as always. It’s not like I’ve known her for years and she’s sticking to something she’s always done.
Where am I going wrong please?
How do I say, I want something different, more choppy, lots of layers and definitely not a school girl fringe?

Tinks2014 · 1 Oct 21, 02:00 PM

Tell her what you just said . Or find a pic you like.
My daughter is a hairdresser and does my hair.

Emmie2016 · 1 Oct 21, 02:00 PM

Originally Posted by Sue

I’ve posted something similar before but asking for more help if possible
I’m looking for a new hairdresser and there are several to choose from near me. I don’t think I’m hard to please, but don’t seem able to communicate what I want very well

I have tried a new hairdresser three times now and she does my highlights really well,but each time I ask for layers to be put in (I have a lot of hair, to thin it out), shaping to frame my face and a choppy, wispy fringe.
She thins out the ends, does not frame it and I get a thinned out but straight fringe. In other words, I leave disappointed and with hair looking exactly the same as always. It’s not like I’ve known her for years and she’s sticking to something she’s always done.
Where am I going wrong please?
How do I say, I want something different, more choppy, lots of layers and definitely not a school girl fringe?

I feel your pain! After 4 visits to my new hairdresser, I finally got what I wanted.

Libby · 1 Oct 21, 02:28 PM

Do you tell her it's OK when she shows you the mirror? I sometimes ask my hairdresser to make some minor changes (softer fringe, a bit thinner on top) before I leave. She might think she is pleasing you if don't say something.

Sue · 1 Oct 21, 02:34 PM

Originally Posted by Libby

Do you tell her it's OK when she shows you the mirror? I sometimes ask my hairdresser to make some minor changes (softer fringe, a bit thinner on top) before I leave. She might think she is pleasing you if don't say something.

Yesterday I asked her twice to not leave my fringe straight and to shape it around my face a bit more, she trimmed the tiniest amounts off, I just felt that I was speaking the wrong language.
I used a lot of praise for the colour and didn’t really comment about the cut, it was almost 3 hours in and I just wanted to go by that point.
At the moment I’m undecided about giving her another chance or trying somewhere else.

catherinesian · 1 Oct 21, 02:37 PM

Perhaps try somewhere new, and take a photo of what you are looking for.

My OH did that recently as he had grown long hair over lockdown and had no clue what to ask for. He took a picture with him and got exactly what he was after.

Libby · 1 Oct 21, 02:40 PM

Originally Posted by Sue

Yesterday I asked her twice to not leave my fringe straight and to shape it around my face a bit more, she trimmed the tiniest amounts off, I just felt that I was speaking the wrong language.
I used a lot of praise for the colour and didn’t really comment about the cut, it was almost 3 hours in and I just wanted to go by that point.
At the moment I’m undecided about giving her another chance or trying somewhere else.

Sounds frustrating and time to try someone new. Do you have any local friends that can recommend someone else?

LIZH · 1 Oct 21, 03:28 PM

I feel for you as I’m in the same boat. I have a lot of hair which I have always kept short, but I always need to keep it thinned out on top and I would love to have a wispy fringe😀

Pussycat Doll · 2 Oct 21, 04:57 PM

From behind the chair! Photos really are a big help, they do give an idea of what the client is expecting her hair to look like. If you have a photo and it’s not quite right, you gave a point of reference to say ‘could you make the sides a bit more like that’ etc.

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Libby Imagineer Join Date: Nov 03	Do you tell her it's OK when she shows you the mirror? I sometimes ask my hairdresser to make some minor changes (softer fringe, a bit thinner on top) before I leave. She might think she is pleasing you if don't say something.