Tell Me Everything Please

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So for a number of years DH and myself have thought about a Disney cruise as an add on to a trip but never got round to doing anything about it. We've now decided a few days R&R on a cruise in middle of one of our trips would be a good idea. I've started watching vlogs and looked at the itinerary's etc but seem totally lost with everything. Sorry but I have a shed load of questions:-
Dining: do you choose a package like at Disney or is it all included within the cost of the cruise ? Tips, are these paid as you go or do you pay a set fee (i've seen that you can buy packages with other operators that have everything all in)
Formal dining: do you have to choose a formal dining night or can you just do buffet style each night (hubby really doesn't want to do a formal night)
Drinks : Is there a separate package for drinks? I don't drink and wouldn't want a package but hubby would. Is it possible to just buy alcoholic drinks as you go along.
Adult only areas: are there any of these area's on a deck so we can just sit and relax without kids running around
Room: is it worth paying the extra for a balcony room or would you just go and sit on one of the decks
Thanks in advance
P