Interested in your thoughts please

[bernard301]

Originally Posted by Floridatilly

Just to add, drinking alcohol is not just not allowed, it’s forbidden, a sin. So is wearing skimpy outfits.

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Are you referrign to religious beliefs in this case? You'll be surprised at how widespread this will be. While there is a question over the morality of another parent enabling the behaviour, it is certainly better that there is an adult aware of it that can react to their behaviour rather than the child acting in defiance and instead ending up blind drunk in a park being taken advantage of. Unfortunately this is a very regular occurrence in areas where people have struct secular upbringings

[sammykitten]

Very very difficult situation I think, and i’m not sure what my thoughts are here. Do we know for sure that the ‘sleepover ‘ girls mum knew, and allowed ie was collusive in, the daughter going out in skimpy clothes with the intention of getting blind drunk? For the whole of the last 18 months?

[Twin mummy]

My initial response was I wouldn't do that for my Daughter's friends but thinking back my Mum did similar for one of my friends. Her Mum was really strict and wouldn't allow her out so she would stay at mine and we would go out around town when we were 17.

My Mum knew and allowed it. Her reasoning was that my friend would do it anyway and she'd rather her be at ours rather than say she was at a friends house and then stay goodness knows where (she had done this and gone off with random boys).

[Floridatilly]

The strict rules are due to religious beliefs.
I never gave ‘boys’ a second thought but there is certainly no sex before marriage and any courting/dating is to be chaperoned.
The drinking, clothing & partying issues will be dealt with through church and she will have to change/ask for forgiveness or be ex communicated.
The other parent is full aware of this.

Such a tricky one. I know I would not allow a minor to drink or be drunk in my house if I knew they was not allowed. But if I knew it was going on (some one was drinking when they are not allowed) I don’t think I would say anything. Shoot the messenger etc etc

A sad situation really, friendships have been broken, trust has been broken and people have been left upset

[nats1211]

I was that girl growing up. Ok maybe not to that extent but i wasn’t allowed out past 9pm or I’d be locked out. Very disapproving looks if I wore a skirt etc. my best friends mum found out about it and that I was basically being left in the cold if not home at a certain time and insisted if I missed curfew I go to their house as she couldn’t live with the thought of anything happening to me because she knew as a teenager I’d do it anyway!

I very much doubt the other mum was complicit in them getting blind drunk, more dealt with the situation at the time.

I have promised myself that I will be that Mum that if my son has friends with no where to sleep that night or no where to turn or they drank to much and panic that I will always help with no judgement.

[floridaphil]

Ok then, I think a mans comment is needed here so here it is:
Kids, Who'd 'ave' em.

[Floridatilly]

Originally Posted by floridaphil

Ok then, I think a mans comment is needed here so here it is:
Kids, Who'd 'ave' em.

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😂😂😂
Oh that’s so true 😂😂😂

[vowels]

Originally Posted by Floridatilly

The strict rules are due to religious beliefs.
I never gave ‘boys’ a second thought but there is certainly no sex before marriage and any courting/dating is to be chaperoned.
The drinking, clothing & partying issues will be dealt with through church and she will have to change/ask for forgiveness or be ex communicated.
The other parent is full aware of this.

Such a tricky one. I know I would not allow a minor to drink or be drunk in my house if I knew they was not allowed. But if I knew it was going on (some one was drinking when they are not allowed) I don’t think I would say anything. Shoot the messenger etc etc

A sad situation really, friendships have been broken, trust has been broken and people have been left upset

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I believe the other parents are in the wrong.

Just because they do not share the faith or beliefs of the girl's family does not give them the right to disregard those tenets and either encourage or enable the girl to also disregard those beliefs, particularly as the consequences for the girl are severe.

I would be furious if my fifteen year old was supposed to be having a sleepover but was out on the randan with the other parents permission.

It is a betrayal of trust and a disregard for the beliefs of other.

[Guest]

It’s not for this friends mum to decide what rules this girl can break .
I think that’s awful , not really what the girl is doing as she’s rebelling but the mum of the friend has crossed the line in aiding this girl in her dishonesty

[Myakka17]

I appreciate it’s the parents religion but have they asked if their 17 yr old daughter wants to follow this religion?
That may be their rules that they were/ are happy to follow but doesn’t mean their daughter has too.
Therefore it’s time for them to ask the question not force their religion upon her.
Times have changed they should let her decide.