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21 Jun 20, 04:03 PM |
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Thanks for this great advice. Michael's other aunt has power of attorney. She helps his dad to do his shopping and takes him to the building society which is where he withdraws the funds. This is what flagged up these issues. I'll find these numbers asap. It sounds like we need to do this before we look at legal options.
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21 Jun 20, 04:08 PM |
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What a terrible situation. Definetly report the suspected financial abuse to social services and contact advocacy if you have this in your area. I wouldnt alert the uncle at the moment of what you are doing in case he takes it out on your fil, and tries to persuade him that you are the problem. Get as much information as you can and take advice on this. Could you take fil to his bank maybe and get detailed statements from there too, and set up power of attourney asap like previously advised, once you realise you need it, its usually too late to set up.
Good luck, x
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21 Jun 20, 04:09 PM |
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Does fil get benefits? If he is a vulnerable adult you can request to act as his appointee if he hasnt already got someone to do this already?
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21 Jun 20, 04:12 PM |
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I'd say he both lacks the capacity and gives in to the Uncle. He doesn't have any idea how much the bills should be and clearly doesn't challenge the Uncle over them. He can't even strip his bed. We're taking him to the memory clinic because he forgot that he had grandchildren today when we reminded him that it was Michael's Father's Day too ☹️
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21 Jun 20, 04:14 PM |
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I absolutely agree. I don't want to make things more complicated when we're trying to get help.
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21 Jun 20, 04:16 PM |
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We will. Apparently he tells fil that he's useless and a waste of space and physically removes the remote control for the telly when he gets home from the pub at six. He told him that if he breaks their oven, he'll have to pay for it and now fil won't cook with it because he's intimidated.
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21 Jun 20, 04:18 PM |
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This is also a concern. We don't know what the uncle might do to cause issues. We're trying to do move house so that fil can live with us but we'd still need to know what was happening with his house. I wouldn't put it past the uncle to change the locks and burn the deeds.
Michael's other aunt has power of attorney and we're going to see if we can take a look at fil's finances. Edited at 04:19 PM. |
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21 Jun 20, 04:21 PM |
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21 Jun 20, 06:14 PM |
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I would get power of attorney over your father in laws legal dealings,this will give you a much better standpoint to confront his BIL.
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21 Jun 20, 06:38 PM |
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Hi, Michael's nice aunt has power of attorney. That's good for the short term but we need to look at things for the long term.
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