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5 May 21, 08:40 AM |
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Join Date: Oct 09
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Sorry to hear this, I can completely empathise with you, as my Mother is just the same. She rang me on the landline the other day and asked where I was. Heartbreaking and a direct consequence of what many consider to be the inhumane rules introduced at lockdown. I am one of thiose for what its worth.
We got a local caring company to do daily visits, now up to 3 per day. Its not cheap, but they are good. We also make sure she is eating through regular visits and staying for lunch/dinner. I hope you get this resolved in the short term, but sadly in the long term it will deteriorate. Disney332
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5 May 21, 12:52 PM |
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Join Date: May 11
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We used icarecuisine.co.uk for my husband’s aunt. They provide a hot dinner and dessert at reasonable prices. You can order online in advance, and choose each days meal, and dates you want them. Delivered fresh each day.
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5 May 21, 04:56 PM |
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Join Date: Jun 08
Location: Lake District
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We have two private carers for DH now. One who gets him up and the other who stays for 5 hours every afternoon. This is working really well for us as it gives me freedom during the day so I'm quite happy to do the evening and night time caring.
We did try an agency and it was a nightmare, the times were unreliable and I still ended up doing most of the care. Have they considered moving into a retirement home together, that might be the only way FIL truly get peace of mind. My mother moved into one in January, she's 95, fiercely independent and a very private person but she actually really likes it. |
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5 May 21, 06:34 PM |
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Apply for Attendance Allowance for both of them, lower rate is about £60 a week, upper is about £90. It isn’t means tested, form is a little bit long, it worth filling it in... maybe over a couple of nights.
If MIL does get diagnosed, they would a,so be entitled to a reduction in council tax (25%). If they get Attendance Allowance , it would help to pay for their meals and carers |
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5 May 21, 06:53 PM |
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I work in the office of a care agency and the way some care agencies work as standard is sadly exactly what I've posted. Our clients never have visits cut short or lots of different carers.
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5 May 21, 07:41 PM |
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My Uncle is 160 miles away and is fiercely independent so he refused all help. we compromised with his meals and use Wiltshire foods.Like others have said they deliver a weeks worth of frozen meals and desserts and pop them in the freezer for him. He chooses from a large selection and really enjoys them. his favourite is sausage casserole with mash and peas. My mom who is also in her eighties checks in with him as she lives a few streets away and he manages fine. when i visited for a few days last week I made him meals and we had a fish supper and the driver noticed he still had meals left in his freezer so he must have reported it as they contacted me to check he was OK. That is not part of their service but it does show they are caring and give me peace of mind.
Slowly I have been persuading him to get more help. just a gardener at the moment so he can look out to the front garden and enjoy the flowers. the next step is personal care but I know that is going to be a hard sell ! Take it slowly if you can and good luck Edited at 07:44 PM. |
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5 May 21, 08:03 PM |
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Excited about Disney
Join Date: Aug 18
Location: Devon
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Just something else that may help - my elderly parents have a freezer in their garage which only my mum can get to due to mobility issues, so we ordered some meals from parsley box. The major benefit of these are that they are long life, do not need refrigerating or freezing and can just be left next to the microwave on the worktop. My parents said they were quite acceptable. Our local council meals on wheels service was also really good and very useful.
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5 May 21, 09:50 PM |
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My mum and dad get Parsley Box meals, and the huge sell for them was they don’t need keeping in the fridge or freezer. They started getting them because my mum went into hospital for surgery, and it was something easy for my dad to cook, but they have kept buying them ever since. I think they have maybe 1 or 2 of these meals a week.
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6 May 21, 09:52 AM |
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Excited about Disney
Join Date: Aug 18
Location: Devon
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6 May 21, 10:21 AM |
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Another vote for Wiltshire Farm Foods here. I started off ordering online for DM, but they were so good to deal with that she happily chatted to them on the phone and took over ordering herself.
It is a difficult time and you are in my thoughts, OP. DM and DFIL have now both passed, but they had v different experiences of care and we in setting it up. DFIL had care from Home Instead, mentioned by others. One of the really positive things about this firm was that the manager came to visit/ assess before hand and answer questions. She said it was policy that she would never send an unknown carer to the in laws‘ door. They tried to keep to named carers as much as possible. If a substitution was needed, she would come with the new carer and do an introduction. DFIL had dementia and this helped him somewhat and DMIL greatly as she built a relationship of trust with the firm. They supported her too. My darling mam had a less positive experience, partly as we were in the thick of COVID. She was not self funded. The carers did not come at anything like set times and she had staff who were very new to the job and in her view badly trained. (She was a carer herself). She stopped them coming in the end. Good luck going forward. Xx
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