Mother in law...Am I right to be annoyed?

[storm]

I know everyone has said thongs aren't appropriate for 13yrs but many dancers/gymnast etc wear then at that age. DD certainly did as lines were best avoided in costumes/leotards etc, sometimes there is a place for nude coloured thongs.

[macjaddie]

Is it just that DD and MIL got a bit carried away together, or was DD pressured into buying things she wasn't comfortable with?

To be honest, it is annoying but not the end of the world.

[Excited6910]

Originally Posted by Queen_Elsa

Yes she does, she’s gets measured by M&S and wears their teen bras. She said she would like a black bra, that’s it. She said Nanna got carried away!

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Jeez...I'd be absolutely seething too. Why would a nana be pushing lace and thongs on her 13yr old DGD? Is she trying to look cool? MIL would be getting a stern text from me or DH if this happened here.

[BarryandCaron]

Back in the day...my Mum was livid my Nan bought me some scholl clogs and paid for my ears piercing. She was a rebel but I loved her to bits and still miss her.

[Guest]

Originally Posted by Queen_Elsa

I’ve just spoken to her on the phone. She said the leopard print one looked like a Victoria Secret one () so that’s why she bought it for her! I told her it wasn’t age appropriate, and none of them fit her so I’m giving them back to her. ( I don’t have the receipt, plus I don’t want the embarrassment of returning a set with a thong!)
I’ve no doubt huffed her but I feel better speaking to her about this.
She has a daughter btw, age 41, divorced and living on her own.

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Sounds like a resolution then. Move on, she's is not a bad grandparent by the sounds of it so not worth causing a fuss.

She won't be here forever xx

[evergreen]

Originally Posted by KC2014

If your daughter is already in a bra then I would consider it just a shopping trip but I definitely do not think thongs and leopard print is appropriate for her age.

However, if this is her first bras/underwear I would be really annoyed. Not your mil's place to buy them then 😕

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Agree with above, what on earth was she thinking what has your dd said about it

[Pumpkin Pie]

Originally Posted by Queen_Elsa

Don’t get me wrong, she helps with childcare and will always do anything if we asked. This is just a step too far for me.

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At first I thought she was out of order but this was not your DD's first bra etc. It sounds as if they have quite a close relationship and your MIL regularly helps you out. Is this a one off or does she regularly overstep? If it is a one off then I think you should not over-react even though the underwear was not suitable.

I am a MIL who looks after my grandchildren three full days a week (they are still young) - we have had no problems yet and I always remember I am not the parent (nor do I want to be) but I am sure I will make a mistake at some point and I would be really offended if my DIL went over the top with me though. I know exactly what it is like to have a nightmare MIL - maybe you are luckier than you think.

[JoS]

Originally Posted by becsluvssw

Sounds like a resolution then. Move on, she's is not a bad grandparent by the sounds of it so not worth causing a fuss.

She won't be here forever xx

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Have to agree with this.

[Button17]

I would have dropped it round to hers, saying "you seemed to have left your new underwear in with Grand-daughters shopping". Passive aggressive 😁

[Queen_Elsa]

Originally Posted by becsluvssw

Sounds like a resolution then. Move on, she's is not a bad grandparent by the sounds of it so not worth causing a fuss.

She won't be here forever xx

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I know, I think on reflection she’s trying to be on trend, more of a friend than a Nanna. But forgetting that she’s only 13. It’s like she wa shopping with her own daughter.