What age?

[kbabble]

Hi, shopping deals for next year and my oldest is keen to come along. He will be 20 at this point, almost 21. We are currently supporting him financially at university and I was wondering, at what age do you stop paying for your kids to go on holiday? I don't want to sound mean but where does it end? Hubby says he can only come if he gets a job and contibutes to the cost

[Lola]

Once DD was earning, post uni she paid her own fare for florida when coming with us. Before that we paid. Now earning good money so pays for far more than us.

[vowels]

Not unreasonable to ask him to get a job and help fund his holiday.

[THOscar]

Originally Posted by kbabble

Hi, shopping deals for next year and my oldest is keen to come along. He will be 20 at this point, almost 21. We are currently supporting him financially at university and I was wondering, at what age do you stop paying for your kids to go on holiday? I don't want to sound mean but where does it end? Hubby says he can only come if he gets a job and contibutes to the cost

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My parents still want to pay for holidays that my wife and I go on with them and I'm 33. Obviously it's a very personal matter but my parents believe that if they can make their children's lives easier by paying for things like a holiday, they will do.

[mickey house]

We paid for our son to come to Florida 2 years ago after his first year at uni as he wasn't working (other than doing some tutoring), and he's just spent a year in industry which he was paid for, so this year he's paying for his own flights and his own park tickets and has his own spending money. He will also pay for his meals, but we aren't taking anything off him or his girlfriend for the villa or car hire costs, or for the hotel at gatwick or RPR (admittedly we used avios points for the hotels).

We haven't taken any money off our son towards household bills for the past year when he's worked, but him and his girlfriend buy their own food.

Perhaps if we were tight for money, we might take more off him.

[markpwa8]

I am not quite there yet, but I cant ever imagining taking money off my kids to come on a holiday with me. Might change in the future, but the thought doesn't sit right. I would be suggesting they maybe pay for a meal or 2 out etc but that is all.

[Jt37]

My eldest is 20 nearly 21 and at college full time, we are paying for everything for him this year and will do while he has zero income. Once he's at Uni (year after next) I will expect him to pay for his air fare at least and we'll pay everything else that we would be paying anyway (car hire, villa ect). I part paid for my first holiday when I was 16 from part time job wages. I think it's good for them to learn to contribute.

[Beth_Disney]

Our agreement was that I started paying for myself when I’d finished full time education. I don’t think I actually went on a proper holiday with mum and dad when I was at uni but the offer was there. I preferred two weeks of peace and quiet!

[400ixl]

Not sure there is an answer as everyone's financial position and relationships would be different.

I would tend to be in the camp of if they wanted to come and couldn't afford it themselves, but I could then I would fund it. Even if the could afford it but would divert funds from something like saving for a mortgage deposit then I would probably fund it if I could.

If they could afford it and would otherwise just waste their money then I wouldn't.

[Smilesonfaces]

Our son is 21 and still comes away with us. Slightly different because he is in full time employment. He pays for his share of the holiday, provides his own spends but we pay for the food/ excursions etc. Even daughter who is only 14 has to provide her own spends.

I do think your son should be making a contribution even if it is small. Many students have jobs, I know I always did, so I don’t think your husband is being too unreasonable.