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16 Dec 20, 06:52 PM |
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See the walking thing, can you get one of the kids to join you? I have no advice on the smoking thing unfortunately but I do know it can be hard to get people motivated.
My younger sister would sometimes be like "I can't be bothered with the gym" and it was quite hard to change her mind. I found it easier if the excuses were removed. "I've made you a sandwich, you can have your dinner when you're home" and then "We can get you on the way if you leave your kit out" and in the end she'd have her own sandwich made up before going to work in the morning. If you go out anyway, regardless of the weather, he may be inclined to join you. I've been quite fortunate teaming up with my neighbour. We used the excuse of "Well she has to take her daughter out in the buggy every other day!". Now it's a habit; we head out for an hour in the evening, grab a decaf coffee and enjoy looking at people's decor/fancy Christmas lights. Edited at 08:58 PM. |
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16 Dec 20, 07:05 PM |
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I can’t believe he doesn’t want to do it for his family, I want to be fit & healthy to see my Grandkids grow up & that would be surely enough motivation for me for sure
His addiction is surely shortening his lifetime with your son, can he not see this & get some help, I’m so sorry to be blunt but when you have kids ,you love & care about them & want them to be happy, but if you don’t look after yourself as parents then they & you will suffer, you only get one life should make it a good one 💕💕 I am so pleased that me & Hubbie can round around after our Grandkids at an indoor play centre when others sit on & watch, I’m sorry to be harsh, but it is the best the feeling in the world & if your Hubbie can’t do it now he needs to think of the future, small steps now, cut down the cigarettes & cut down on the food, he’ll feel so much better for it 💪💪💪😀😀 I hope you make it up soon Take care Xx |
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16 Dec 20, 07:22 PM |
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Apart from the 'Cold Turkey' this was me! I hadn't been on half the rides in WDW until I stopped smoking. I was always in the smoking area. Lol.
I went through the GP and was prescribed Champix. I smoked for exactly 2 weeks after starting them and have not touched a cigarette since. 12 years August just gone. Whilst I know you are worried, and rightly so, it's like every other addiction. Unless the addicted person wants to stop you're wasting your time trying to talk them into it. I hope he changes his mind.
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16 Dec 20, 07:30 PM |
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16 Dec 20, 07:32 PM |
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Thank you, I have actually said all of this to him, I think he’s a little bit in denial because he thinks it will be so hard to stop. We have had a bit more of a calm discussion about it this evening, I did suggest that perhaps the thought of stopping maybe more difficult than the actual stopping which he accepted. Small steps I think. He has absolutely no confidence and is very down on himself and I think this is part of the reason he thinks he just won’t be able to quit so what’s the point of trying?
We are back on speaking terms now (we usually get on very well and our arguments are very short lived) |
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16 Dec 20, 07:42 PM |
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I think it’s easy for non-smokers to just think “ach, he should just give up, it can’t be that hard” but it isn’t easy. It was the hardest thing i’ve ever done and it took more than one try. 15 years without a smoke now but i still class myself as an ex-smoker.
He’s got to be ready to do it and no amount of nagging or tutting or being disgusted will help him be ready sooner. It’s just something in your head, a trigger if you like, and for me it was standing outside smoking in the belting rain whilst DW played with 18 month old DS on the living room floor. The one bit of advice i would give him would be to try to lose some weight (not easy either) before he stops smoking. So many people i know, myself included, put on weight after stopping smoking. Try to encourage him to find something else to occupy his time/hands when he stops rather than nibbling on treats. Good luck to him. Edited at 07:43 PM. |
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16 Dec 20, 07:45 PM |
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16 Dec 20, 07:51 PM |
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I know he’s worried about putting on weight if he stops smoking. He is very good with finding projects to keep him busy, way better than me! He’s built a huge floor to ceiling cat post for our cat, a wooden gazebo for our decking area and is currently making a waterfall for the garden out of cement and polystyrene! He’s very very talented and handy but has just never had any encouragement from anyone before he met me so he always puts himself down.
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16 Dec 20, 07:58 PM |
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As an ex smoker who tried a few times to give up, and had DH nagging me for years all I will say is the more you nag the more he will dig his heels in.
The moment just had to be ‘right’ or else it’s impossible. I just decided out of the blue nearly 10 years ago, went cold turkey and succeeded finally. He will get there but it will have to be in his own time. The addiction is strong. |
16 Dec 20, 08:01 PM |
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Join Date: Nov 10
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Hi Ariel - a friends husband smoked since he was early teens until mid 60's - she said he'll never stop but encouraged him to smoke and vape, lo and behold he quickly stopped tabs and vaped only. He vaped for around 2 year or so with nicotine juice then changed to non nicotine juice as it was the 'action' he felt he'd miss. Early this year he developed a shocking, debilitating cold (? C19) that slammed his chest and he simply stopped vaping, he doesn't miss vaping especially as he was circa one year nicotine free. He was adamant he'd never stop smoking tabs and was delighted for all his negativity vaping nicotine/non nicotine juice worked brilliantly for him he thinks still getting the 'action' made all the difference and being ill made him realise being nicotine free meant he no longer needed the 'action'.
Best to you and yours Ariel, good luck
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