Apologies - rant but what should I do

[bonnies mum]

I have deleted my thread as it caused me some upset

[Moleymole]

Seems like you are hoping that she will behave like a close relative, maybe she doesn't see herself/you as a close relative. It can be very hurtful when people have different ideas of what their relationship is, I've been there too often so you have my sympathies.

[dvc]

I have to agree here. You seem to be expecting her to do as you would do? Everyone's interpretation of family relationships is different and perhaps you just have to go with the fact that her idea of your relationship is different to yours. You say she hadn't been in touch for 3 weeks - well it is coming up to Christmas and maybe she's busy or she thinks you have enough on your plate without her. Just giving the other point of view here.

[bonnies mum]

Removed as has been answered

[ERICSMUM]

Why don't you text her or better still include a brief letter in your Christmas card, informal and pleasant, giving her an update of everything going on in your lives ? Don't say anything about her not contacting you until you see how see reacts.

If she doesn't respond as you would like her to then I think you will have to accept what has been said above - she doesn't attach as much importance to family as you do.

There's always the possibility of her having illness or problems of her own that she doesn't want to discuss or burden you with.

Anyway I hope you can resolve it one way or the other so that you don't continue to fret over it.

Linda xx

[Guest]

I think sometimes you just have to accept people the way they are. It can be hurtful when you expect more and they don't keep in touch as much as you'd like. My Dad is hopeless, he doesn't visit and rarely rings me or my sister. The last time we saw him was just before Christmas last year, no idea yet if we'll see him this year. It used to upset me but a few years ago I decided he's never going to change so it's pointless letting it bother me.

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